Throwing You On The Defensive: The Art of Covert-Aggression

- Dr. George Simonby Dr. George Simon(3 total)

Covert fighters count on the fact that you won’t trust your gut instincts or pass simple judgment on their character or the true character of their actions. They count on you being far too conscientious for that.

— Dr. George Simon, drgeorgesimon.com

Covert Abuse Covert Aggression Narcissistic Abuse Narcissists Wolves in Sheep's Clothing

Sometimes just the manipulator speaking with apparent conviction can invite the overly conscientious person to doubt themselves. And often, manipulators “bundle” tactics together, giving vague, misleading, half-answers, distracting, minimizing and rationalizing... they might pull out a “trump card”…

— Dr. George Simon, drgeorgesimon.com

Covert Abuse Covert Aggression Narcissistic Abuse Narcissists Wolves in Sheep's Clothing

Covert-aggression is at the heart of most interpersonal manipulation. What the artful, subtle fighter knows is that if they can get you to doubt yourself, feel like you have to explain yourself, and question your perceptions and judgment, there’s a good chance they can get you to back down, back-off…

— Dr. George Simon, drgeorgesimon.com

Covert Abuse Covert Aggression Narcissistic Abuse Narcissists Wolves in Sheep's Clothing

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