You Play the Girl

: On Playboy Bunnies, Stepford Wives, Train Wrecks, & Other Mixed Messagesby Carina Chocano(10 total)

WINNER OF THE NATIONAL BOOK CRITICS CIRCLE AWARD FOR CRITICISM A FINALIST FOR THE PEN/DIAMONSTEIN-SPIELVOGEL AWARD FOR THE ART OF THE ESSAY "If Hollywood's treatment of women leaves you wanting, you'll find good, heady company in

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It's not enough for candy to be candy. It has to symbolize candy too.

— Carina Chocano, amazon.com

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The women on The Bachelor shows aren't interested in marriage except as a certificate of completion; proof that they've become what a girl is still expected to become. What they're looking for is the chance to embark on the singular adventure they've read about and seen acted in movie after movie th…

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The Bachelor presents itself as a show about beautiful young single people finding love, but the show is less a matchmaking service than a sporting event. The sport is femininity.

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Eat, Pray, Love felt about as authentic to me as the heroine's "journey" on The Bachelor: Either she triumphed against all odds, or she quietly disappeared. It had to be a certain kind of redemptive narrative for a certain kind of lady at a certain stage in life when perhaps she has taken to wistful…

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At the start of the book, Gilbert paints herself as a desperate suburban housewife in the throes of a nervous breakdown. But she was already a prize-winning journalist. She was rich. She'd had stories made into movies.

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I wish I could say I was immune to the promise of the redemption narrative, but I found it hard to resist its mass-market allure. I also wanted very badly for it to save me.

— Carina Chocano, amazon.com

Before and After,Eat Pray Love

I put on pants fifty years ago and declared a sort of middle road. I have not lived as a woman. I have lived as a man. I've just done what I damn well wanted to and I've made enough money to support myself and I ain't afraid of being alone.

— Katharine Hepburn, amazon.com

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Eventually, she left her husband, moved to California with her daughter; and became an internationally best-selling author.

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Romantic love is a mirror in which you can see your whole self pleasantly reflected, if you're lucky. Or it's a dark mirror into which you can disappear.

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A woman’s education was designed to coax her to sleep at sixteen and keep her unchanged and unconscious forever. It was an undoing. It wasn’t a start but a “finishing”.

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