“Use lube. I don’t care if you get caught up in the moment. Before you stick your dick in her pussy, you get her wet, and before you stick it in her ass, you slather on lube. It’s not an option. It’s an order.”— Holly Riordan, thoughtcatalog.com
“As the saying goes, prime real estate is all about location, location, location. The same principle applies to anal sex. It's all about position, position, position. And don't forget the lube — lots and lots of slippery lube to make your first time more enjoyable.”— Bethany Ramos, sheknows.com
“If you’re not a pot smoker, skip this one. But sexual adventurers who fancy the occasional toke know how intensely smoking can enhance the experience. It’s also true that marijuana possesses some amazing pain-reducing powers, and this can come in handy when maneuvering large objects into tiny spaces…”— Carrie Weisman, alternet.org
“The tissue around the anus is delicate and can tear easily if not handled with care. So anal penetrators take note: short, smooth nails makes injury much less likely to come by. Take a minute and file down.”— Carrie Weisman, alternet.org
“Try to warm your finger up under your body before playing with her. Kiss her from head to toe, play with her nipples with your fingers or tongue, then her vagina and then her anus using a little lube on your fingers”— Nick Hawk, askmen.com
“For safety’s sake, suggest your girl avoid nuts, seeds, anything sharp. For comfort’s sake, nothing too, too spicy, either. For cleanliness’s sake, things that might encourage a bowel movement. Coffee, or really any hot beverage, should be avoided too.”— Carol Queen, askmen.com
“Experimenting in bed is fun and enjoyable for most couples. As long as you are comfortable and consenting to sexually nuances than I say have a great time! Communication and honesty is key.”— Sherry Ross, gurl.com
“Your partner should always wear a condom. While you won’t get pregnant through anal sex, you are still at risk for sexually transmitted infections.”— Sherry Ross, gurl.com
“Do not eat a lot before you will be having anal. You can if you want, but it might make you nauseous. I'm not saying starve yourself or stick to a liquid diet. Just don't eat a lot.”— Stef Woods, citygirlblogs.com
“Anal sex is rarely messy. Your bowels are generally empty until you're ready to go. That said, if your partner is completely uncomfortable with the possibility of poop, anal sex is maybe not for him. After all, it's not like he's fucking you in the ear and there's poop in it. It's a butt. It's where…”— Emily McCombs, xojane.com
“A lot of the reasons I love it so much are psychological. It's dirty, it's taboo, Oh yeah, you're fucking me in the ass baby, that kind of thing. But to be honest, I kind of feel the same way about vaginal sex. The actual physical sensation ain't all that. If I was having sex purely for sensation, I…”— Emily McCombs, xojane.com
“Though your anus is not a storage compartment for feces, they do pass through their on the way to the porcelain pool, so your diet can impact your degree of comfort and pleasure during anal play. If you don’t have enough fiber in your diet and you have to push hard when going to the bathroom, irrita…”— Jessica O'Reilly, wdish.com
“Your breathing patterns are essential to enjoying anal sex and ensuring that it is pleasurable and entirely pain-free. Though you can easily control your outer sphincter muscle with your central nervous system (the same system that allows you to contract and the other muscles in your body at will),…”— Jessica O'Reilly, wdish.com
“When it comes to sex, there is considerable value in trying new things on your own before introducing them to partnered play, as we often allow our body’s natural responses to flow more freely and experience less pressure in the absence of a lover. If you want to experiment with anal play, try playi…”— Jessica O'Reilly, wdish.com
“When it's time to finish, don't assume it's okay to do inside of your partner. That's probably true of all sexual acts (R-E-S-P-E-C-T), but it's especially important with backdoor play, because semen can have a laxative effect, which can lead to accidents.”— Jolie Kerr, adequateman.deadspin.com
“Using condoms will help to make cleanup easier and is absolutely recommended for partners who are not exclusive to ensure that your sexually health remains, well, healthy.”— Jolie Kerr, adequateman.deadspin.com
“Go sit on the pot and clear your bowels. You may also want to wash; a washcloth and mild soap are best for this, and employing your fingers to clear debris out of your butthole is also suggested. Somewhat related to this: Avoid foods that tend to cause gastric distress.”— Jolie Kerr, adequateman.deadspin.com
“The joy of rimming. Boy, do I love a good rim job. Hopefully, you and your b/f do too. 'Cause like, if boy can't get a tongue in your butt, ain't no way his dick's going up there, you feel me?”— Diana, jezebel.com
“First of all, it's easier to do when you've had a few drinks. I know that's not 'healthy' advice, but it's real advice. Your spirit and butthole are freed or something. It just doesn't feel as weird.”— Anna B., womenshealthmag.com
“What I wished I had known before I did anal is that if something is a little sore, it doesn't mean you have to stop right away and look at your butthole with a magnifying glass to make sure nothing is wrong with it. You can just go slowly. The exception is if you feel a really sharp or unusual pain.…”— Margaret C., womenshealthmag.com