Quotes tagged ‘Narcissistic Abuse’

“Covert fighters count on the fact that you won’t trust your gut instincts or pass simple judgment on their character or the true character of their actions. They count on you being far too conscientious for that.”

— Dr. George Simon, drgeorgesimon.com

“Sometimes just the manipulator speaking with apparent conviction can invite the overly conscientious person to doubt themselves. And often, manipulators “bundle” tactics together, giving vague, misleading, half-answers, distracting, minimizing and rationalizing... they might pull out a “trump card”…”

— Dr. George Simon, drgeorgesimon.com

“Covert-aggression is at the heart of most interpersonal manipulation. What the artful, subtle fighter knows is that if they can get you to doubt yourself, feel like you have to explain yourself, and question your perceptions and judgment, there’s a good chance they can get you to back down, back-off…”

— Dr. George Simon, drgeorgesimon.com

“When you’re dealing with an empathy-deficient individual with a high sense of entitlement and a sadistic need to bring others down, conversations become crazymaking minefields meant to psychologically terrorize and divert you.”

— Shahida Arabi, thoughtcatalog.com

“Remember: toxic people don’t argue with you, they essentially argue with themselves and you become privy to their long, draining monologues. They thrive off the drama and they live for it.”

— Shahida Arabi, thoughtcatalog.com

“Gaslighting exhausts a victim's internal resources so that they are unable to self-validate.”

— Shahida Arabi, thoughtcatalog.com

“Even the most hardened police officers can witness an impressive performance of faux remorse from a narcissist they’re meeting for the first time and find themselves thinking, “Aww, how noble.” You look at the same performance after years of being with them and see a snake attempting to put on a fur…”

— Shahida Arabi, thoughtcatalog.com

“Gaslighting exhausts a victim’s internal resources so they are unable to self-validate.”

— Shahida Arabi, thoughtcatalog.com

“In threatening and survival situations, we look for evidence of hope – a small sign that the situation may improve. When an abuser/controller shows the victim some small kindness, even though it is to the abusers benefit as well, the victim interprets that small kindness as a positive trait of the c…”

— Dr. Joe Carver, drjoecarver.makeswebsites.com

“As victims of psychological violence get closer to the precipice of truth, the man (or woman) behind the curtain creates a great deal of noise to divert their victims from ever seeing what is beneath the surface of their façade and grandiose claims of authenticity. The noise malignant narcissists cr…”

— Shahida Arabi, thoughtcatalog.com

“Executed effectively and done chronically, gaslighting causes self-doubt and cognitive dissonance – a state of turmoil stirred by inconsistent attitudes and beliefs. Survivors of emotional predators sense that something is amiss, but when they attempt to address it, they are often blindsided by thei…”

— Shahida Arabi, thoughtcatalog.com

“Regardless of what your spiritual beliefs are, let’s put them to good use. Let’s extend the idea of interconnectedness to help victims who suffer every day from the realities of verbal, emotional, physical and sexual abuse. Let’s stop letting abusers off the hook and enabling their behavior – it is…”

— Shahida Arabi, thoughtcatalog.com

“The best karma a narcissist can receive is actually the weight of your indifference and success after you leave them.”

— Shahida Arabi, thoughtcatalog.com

“Abusers have not morphed into a new person with their latest victim. Time and time again, the narcissist acts as a magician and presents the greatest illusion of all: the disappearing act, followed by a honeymoon romance with his or her latest victim. Don’t fall for these cheap magic tricks. These a…”

— Shahida Arabi, thoughtcatalog.com

“The erasure of the abuse was worse than the abuse. One of the most insidious things about gaslighting is the denial of reality. Being denied what you have seen. Being denied what you have experienced and know to be true. It can make you feel like you are crazy. But you are not crazy.”

— Ariel Leve, theguardian.com

“I like to see the sudden doubt on his furrowed brow as I use his weapons as boomerangs.”

— Shahida Arabi, amazon.com

“A narcissistic abuser can lead survivors to feel depressed, suicidal, anxious, constantly on edge and worthless.”

— Shahida Arabi, amazon.com

“Grandiosity, self-importance, and requiring admiration and compliance with his own expectations are the attributes of the narcissistic father. The narcissistic father is critical and perfectionistic to the point where no one can meet his standards. The father gives loyalty to those who hold the fath…”

— Selma Nemer, amazon.com

“The typical adult from a narcissistic family is filled with unacknowledged anger, feels like a hollow person, feels inadequate and defective, suffers from periodic anxiety and depression, and has no clue about how he or she got that way.”

— Robert M. Pressman, Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman, amazon.com

“Adults raised in narcissistic families often do not know that they can say no-that they have a right to limit what they will do for others, and that they do not have to be physically and emotionally accessible to anyone at any time.”

— Robert M. Pressman, Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman, amazon.com