“This biological, evolutionary connection for women of possible ecstasy to emotional security has implications that cannot be overstressed. Relaxing allows for female arousal.”— Naomi Wolf, amazon.com
“The female body reacts in the same way to “bad stress” whether the context is the birthing room or the university or the workplace. If the female brain senses that an environment is not safe, its stress response inhibits all the same organs and systems, regardless of setting.”— Naomi Wolf, amazon.com
“Female sexual pleasure, rightly understood, is not just about sexuality, or just about pleasure. It serves, also, as a medium of female self-knowledge and hopefulness; female creativity and courage; female focus and initiative; female bliss and transcendence; and as medium of a sensibility that feel…”— Naomi Wolf, amazon.com
“At every turn, women are taught that how someone reacts to them does more to establish their goodness and worth than anything they themselves might feel.”— Lili Loofbourow, theweek.com
“One side effect of teaching one gender to outsource its pleasure to a third party (and endure a lot of discomfort in the process) is that they're going to be poor analysts of their own discomfort, which they have been persistently taught to ignore.”— Lili Loofbourow, theweek.com
“This is also how women are taught to be good hosts. To subordinate their desires to those of others. To avoid confrontation.”— Lili Loofbourow, theweek.com
“Boys learn not to worry about girls’ pleasure, and when girls and women have sexual encounters that don’t feel good — whether they’re just unsatisfying or actively abusive — they’re primed to accept that’s just how sex is.”— Jaclyn Friedman, vox.com
“But the most damaging thing that happens when we leave pleasure out of sex ed is that we allow girls to go on thinking that sex is something that’s not really for or about them.”— Jaclyn Friedman, vox.com
“Consent education does something else transformative: It tells girls that sex is supposed to be for them.”— Jaclyn Friedman, vox.com