A man has to make a woman his by his sword.
— Akira Kurosawa, Shinobu Hashimoto, Masako, Machiko Kyō, imdb.com
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Quotes tagged ‘Rape Culture’
Hotchner: [after Lisa Blake's rape] Excuse me, how bad were her injuries? CSU Tech: She's lucky, they're relatively minor. Hotchner: Do me a favor? Don't tell her that she's lucky.
Alex, maybe you think I'm being silly, like I get my titties in a twist over the tiniest things, but you didn't walk that hall. You didn't feel those eyes on you. You've never heard those whispers. You think I'm taking it all way too seriously, right? But here's the thing: You've never been a girl.
— Brian Yorkey, Diana Son, Hannah Baker, Katherine Langford, imdb.com
It is widely thought that when something is legally prohibited, it more or less stops. This may be true for exceptional acts, but it is not true for pervasive practices like sexual harassment, including rape, that are built into structural social hierarchies.
Men shame women for having a lot of consensual sex more than they shame other men for rape.
There’s sexual harassment over here and you shouldn’t conflate it with rape. Which is true; those are two very different things. But they’re on the same spectrum. Sexual harassment is like the gateway drug. It’s the entry point.
Sexual violence happens on a spectrum, and I think that accountability should happen on a spectrum as well.
The gray area is really important to talk about because so many of us live in the gray area. People talk a lot about how men are confused about consent and they don’t know if they should touch this or touch that, or ask.
This iteration in social media has placed a larger focus on perpetrators being called out and held accountable for their actions. But the actual Me Too movement is about supporting sexual assault survivors.
Why is it so hard for men to acknowledge that sexual liberation never actually freed women? That our sexuality remains bound still by so many other man-made knots that it will take a great deal more effort than the offer of a zipless fuck to untangle us?
Boys learn not to worry about girls’ pleasure, and when girls and women have sexual encounters that don’t feel good — whether they’re just unsatisfying or actively abusive — they’re primed to accept that’s just how sex is.
Studies show that most rapists are perfectly aware their victims aren’t into what’s happening. And social science has also clearly demonstrated that men (and women!) are perfectly capable of understanding social cues, even ones where someone is saying “no” without using that actual word.
Teaching affirmative consent does something profound: It shifts the acceptable moral standard for sex, making it much clearer to everyone when someone is violating that standard.
But the most damaging thing that happens when we leave pleasure out of sex ed is that we allow girls to go on thinking that sex is something that’s not really for or about them.
Consent education does something else transformative: It tells girls that sex is supposed to be for them.
And I also hope men start to understand one day, that women have been oppressed since the beginning of time. We are only just starting to find our voices and demand equality. Do not abuse our conditioning to bend to your whims. Especially in the bedroom.
When people constantly decry the lack of focus on women’s agency and what she could’ve done to 'prevent' herself from being a victim of rape, they forget that a woman’s agency and her ability to consent is already compromised by the way she has been shaped and constrained by her society and culture,…
There’s a reason many women try to be as soft as possible with men, to use padded and flowery language, to be gentle and tender in talking— it’s because most women learn early on that the slightest sign of discontent, of anger, of displeasure from women means repercussions from men.
If a woman uses the word “forced” to describe in any way what you are doing, THAT IS HER SAYING NO.
If a woman is physically removing your hands from her body, that is her saying no.