“If a girl and I end up hooking up quickly, it doesn't necessarily mean I've written her off. All she needs to do to maintain my interest is…be awesome. Be interesting and interested in me. Plan cool events. For example, 'Hey, I've got an extra ticket to this show tonight. Want to go?' Go out and do…”— Sam M., cosmopolitan.com
“First dates are best kept quick and noncommittal for both parties—unless you've known each other for a while. If I meet a girl and get her number, the first time we go out shouldn't be a three-hour opera and dinner afterwards. What if we end up not liking each other? Then we're just stuck and that's…”— Greg G, cosmopolitan.com
“Say what you mean. Girls have this tendency of expecting guys to read between the lines, then ending up disappointed. If you want something, be specific and avoid causing yourself unnecessary stress. We're usually pretty open to new ideas.”— Adrian B., cosmopolitan.com
“I like a girl to be confident going into a date, even if it's the first one. The normal guy-girl interactions on initial outings usually fall somewhere between awkward and really awkward (which is understandable, especially if it's a blind date), so having a girl go the opposite route not only makes…”— Alex S, cosmopolitan.com
“The food you choose on dates says volumes about your character. Dainty foods (read: salads) seem to have a low correlation to fun and enjoyment. First few dates, make the food good, simple and completely forgettable so you can focus on each other.”— Max S, cosmopolitan.com
“If the guy doesn't say something and take the check off the table to pay, it's probably fair to assume that you're going Dutch. There are different reasons that a guy might not pick up the tab (some that might not have anything to do with you), but if you're into him, avoid looking too disappointed.…”— Josh F., cosmopolitan.com
“I always appreciate the offer to split the check, even though I never allow it. If we end up grabbing drinks later and a woman insists on paying, I really like that a lot. It shows me that she's genuinely interested in spending time with me as opposed to wanting to be wined and dined regardless of w…”— Nate N, cosmopolitan.com
“Girls should try to avoid pre-judging before a first date. Whether it's someone you're meeting online or it's someone your friends know, aim to drop the things you know about them and start fresh. Don't ask your friends to tell you everything they can because you can end up with a tainted view of wh…”— Oliver B, cosmopolitan.com
“Please don't assume we're going to the nicest restaurant in the city because I won't take you there. I'll take you to a dive bar with amazing burgers to see how you react. If you're flowing with it and cool, we've got a winner. If you seem offended by it, that's as far as we go.”— Steve M., cosmopolitan.com
“The best time to begin dating is when your life is really in gear, your friends think you're swell, you're relatively content with the way you look, work is going well, you're even on speaking terms with your parents, and you can think of exes without raising your blood pressure.”— Joy Browne, amazon.com
“The difference between being paralyzed and going for it is a basic faith in yourself. This faith is really what confidence is all about. Even when you're not quite sure, the appearance of confidence can get you a long way.”— Joy Browne, amazon.com
“Charm is simply the practice of making someone know that you feel good about them without embarrassing them or asking anything of them in return, and it's really, really seductive.”— Joy Browne, amazon.com
“The truth is, if you pretend you're not afraid, before you know it, you're really not afraid. Be afraid of not taking chances, not of making mistakes.”— Joy Browne, amazon.com
“Compete only with yourself, being the best you can be, and you will find comfort and serenity that others will see as confidence and that will keep you calm and focused — all of which are incredibly attractive characteristics.”— Joy Browne, amazon.com
“The difference between being paralyzed and going for it is a basic faith in yourself. This faith is really what confidence is all about. Even when you're not quite sure, the appearance of confidence can get you a long way.”— Joy Browne, amazon.com
“After all, dating should be fun. It's not like your whole life or livelihood depends on one date or several dates. The purpose of dating is simple: getting to know someone and letting that person get to know you so that you can decide whether you're interested in spending any more time together.”— Joy Browne, amazon.com
“He worked hard for it. He waited patiently. He treated you right. He didn’t use you. This is a good man and he deserves a good woman. Give him your all.”— Kara King, amazon.com
“You want to be so busy and proactive in your own life that you don’t need a man, nor want a man, because you don’t have time for a man. Your time is valuable and therefore, men will know not to waste it. You won’t even allow them to waste it.”— Kara King, amazon.com
“When a woman has her own things going on, it’s a big turn on to a man. Why? It makes a man take interest. He sees a woman who doesn’t need or want a man. He sees a smart, hard worker, who has her own life. A woman that’s busy and has to be choosy about who she spends her time with.”— Kara King, amazon.com
“If you have a man telling you he loves you, but his actions are saying something different, then it’s time to realize that he’s lying to you.”— Kara King, amazon.com