“The first time you have sex, you need to make sure you are prepared, mentally and physically. Your reasons for having sex must be something other than "I want him to like me more" or "He says I have to or he'll dump me". Guys who pressure girls into sex are nothing but jerks. They aren't worth your…”— Adam Marshall, helpingteens.org
“Your body is awesome. Curvy, big boobs, small ones, thin, athletic, voluptuous, J-Lo booty or no booty at all — what you got is workin’ for YOU. Don’t let anyone tell you differently.”— Lindsay Tigar, yourtango.com
“Don't be afraid to swallow. It can actually be a lot easier. And it's a HELL of a lot less messy.”— Lindsay Tigar, yourtango.com
“Stop being nervous and simply enjoy the moment. Forget everything you’ve ever seen in the movies and porn because that’s not real.”— Nirmalya Dutta, thehealthsite.com
“The most important thing you’ve to keep in mind is that NO ONE is good the first time. Sex like everything else takes practice and you will get better with experience. So don’t worry about it and just enjoy your first time.”— Nirmalya Dutta, thehealthsite.com
“Many women find it hard to ejaculate through vaginal intercourse and the only thing that works for them is clitoral stimulation.”— Nirmalya Dutta, thehealthsite.com
“You can stop whenever you want. Regardless of how turned on your partner is or whatever deed of angels they may have done, you do not owe them sex. Ever. You should know that if you're uncomfortable at any point, you should ask your partner to stop immediately and assert it more forcefully if they d…”— Sukhmani Waraich, vagabomb.com
“Queefing, aka noisy fart from the vagina, is perfectly normal. You may hear a loud, uncontrollable fart-like sound from your vagina while you're having sex. But it's not exactly a fart. Penetrative sex causes air to escape from the vagina and, expectedly so, it makes a noise. Nothing to be embarrass…”— Sukhmani Waraich, vagabomb.com
“Empty out your bladder before starting. Stopping to pee is one of the biggest mood-killers in the world. So hydrate yourself, pee it all out and then get it on.”— Sukhmani Waraich, vagabomb.com
“If you are deciding to become sexually active, it’s a good idea to discuss birth control with your doctor before you have sex.”— Brooke Dean, madamenoire.com
“Do you know how to please yourself? Do you know what you like, what you don’t like, what arouses you or what turns you off? You may want to spend some ‘alone time’ with yourself so that you can feel comfortable with your own sexuality. Having sex for the first time can be an intense experience leavi…”— Brooke Dean, madamenoire.com
“Are you emotionally and mentally ready to have sex? For most women, sex and emotions cannot be separated – it’s how we’re wired. We release a bonding chemical called oxytocin during sex that can leave us catching feelings if we’re not too careful. If you’re not sure if he is worthy of the honor of d…”— Brooke Dean, madamenoire.com
“Give yourself what you need after any kind of sex, and ask your partner for what you need from them, and to voice their own needs. You may want to snuggle, talk, or go have lunch or take a walk together. You may instead want some time alone. It's up to each of you.”— Heather Corinna, scarleteen.com
“When you're done with intercourse, take off the condom -- away from the vulva -- slowly, knot it, and throw it away. When you're pulling the penis out of the vagina, you'll want to hold onto the base of the condom so it doesn't slip off before you're ready for it to come off.”— Heather Corinna, scarleteen.com
“Most commonly, pain or bleeding isn't about the hymen at all. Instead, it is more commonly about about feeling nervous, rushed, unsafe or scared, not aroused enough or having a partner be too hasty. Not communicating that something hurts, and keeping on in silence is another common culprit with pain…”— Heather Corinna, scarleteen.com
“Don’t sleep with someone unless you really, honest-to-God want to. You should never feel pressured to have sex because you think you’re expected to, regardless of how much you’ve been flirting or how long you’ve been dating.”— Lara Rutherford-Morrison, bustle.com
“Before you get into bed with someone, be sure that you have a clear idea of what the sex will mean for your relationship with that person. Is this going to be a one-time hookup? Is this a casual, but potentially ongoing thing? Is this the start of an LTR? Does sleeping together automatically mean yo…”— Lara Rutherford-Morrison, bustle.com
“Is your partner single, in a monogamous relationship, an open relationship, married, or something in between? Find out. It’s totally up to you how you want to proceed, but you should at least have all of the info up front.”— Lara Rutherford-Morrison, bustle.com
“Because your first time might be awkward, you should do what you can to make yourself feel comfortable. If that means having the lights off, keeping your shirt on or staying in one position the only time, so be it. Don't do things you don't want to do because that will only make you more uncomfortab…”— Jessica Booth, gurl.com