“'Only if you say please' is a statement that’s really only okay for a parent to say to a child, in the process of teaching said child manners. It’s not okay to chastise other adults with it.”Tagged: Please and Thank You, Manners, Work, Politeness, Being Polite
“The point here isn’t necessarily that you genuinely think there’s a disconnect; it’s to name what’s happening and let her know that you see it, which may make her less inclined to do it.”Tagged: Work, Coworkers, Ideas
“There is a legal concept called tortious interference, which is a legal violation related to intentionally damaging someone’s business relationships.”Tagged: Work, Coworkers, Careers, Career Advice
“It’s true that sometimes a perfectly good manager will assign something and not realize until it’s turned in that they needed to be clearer. That happens to all of us! But when it does, the manager needs to figure out that’s happened and correct it.”Tagged: Workplace Dynamics, Work, Jobs, Careers, Expectations
“That’s part of what you’re being paid for — to get along reasonably well with people even if you don’t like them, to be reasonably pleasant to work with, and to regulate what emotions you display.”Tagged: emotions, Management, managing emotions, Work, Careers
“Feedback shouldn’t be rare, or reserved for a Big Deal Meeting with a box of tissues carefully placed on the table between you.”Tagged: Criticism, Work, Bosses, Careers
“You could also make sure that other people on your team know the facts about the organization, so that they might be more likely to decline if Jason or Bernadette try to recruit them (especially because trying to recruit acquaintances is part of the model).”Tagged: Cults, Work, Coworkers
“Is this something you’d fire him over if it continues unchanged?”Tagged: Ask A Manager, Work, Jobs, Careers
“Why not just talk to her? It’s 100 percent reasonable.”Tagged: Coworkers, Personality, Work, Careers, Jobs
“It’s one thing to pinch-hit for a more senior-level job for a few weeks, but at the pace they’ve moved at so far, you could still be doing it months from now without any change in pay.”Tagged: Work, Work Advice, Career