The more we tell ourselves that we should always be happy, that happiness in an end in itself, the worse it gets.
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Iain Reid
Iain Reid (b. ca. 1980) is a Canadian writer, who won the RBC Taylor Emerging Writer Award in 2015. 2Writing career Reid established his writing career by publishing articles and columns in national magazines and newspapers following his college graduation. He drew the attention of the National Post, garnering a weekly column assignment. In 2015 he began appearing in US magazine The New Yorker. His first memoir, One Bird's Choice: A Year in the Life of an Over-educated, Underemployed Twentysomething Who Moves Back Home, was published in 2010, and was followed by The Truth About Luck: What I Learned on my Road Trip with Grandma in 2013. His debut novel, I'm Thinking of Ending Things, was published in 2016. He lives in Kingston, Ontari
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I feel like I’m underwater, weighed down, helpless.
I’m thinking of ending things.
I think what I want is for someone to know me. Really know me. Know me better than anyone else and maybe even me. Isn’t that why we commit to another? It’s not for sex. If it were for sex, we wouldn’t marry one person. We’d just keep finding new partners. We commit for many reasons, I know, but the…
Most people want to get married. Is there anything else that people do in such huge numbers, with such a terrible success rate?
Forfeiting solitude, independence, is a much greater sacrifice than most of us realize.
Sadness is a normal human condition, no different from happiness. You wouldn’t think of happiness as an illness. Sadness and happiness need each other.
It’s not you, it’s me. It’s my issue. I’m the one with the problem. I’m putting you in an unfair position. You’re a good person. I need to work through some things. You need to move on. We tried, we did. And you never know what’ll happen in the future.