“Do you have a specific way that you masturbate? Some women masturbate the exact same way every time, and actually wind up creating mental blockages to reaching orgasm with a partner (this happens a lot for men too, by the way). You may find yourself distracted because you’re critiquing his speed or pressure, or bemoaning the fact that he’s not stimulating you as well as well as you’re able to stimulate yourself.

Even if you don’t think this is a factor for you, I still recommend varying your masturbatory routine. Try using different strokes, different speeds, or even using your non-dominant hand. You can train your body to respond to a wider array of stimulation.”