“If you’ve experienced sexual abuse or trauma of any kind, you may find it hard to reach orgasm during sex. Even if you rationally understand that your boyfriend would never hurt you, your body may not be fully able to relax when you’re being intimate. One technique to help yourself feel more at ease…”— Vanessa Marin, bustle.comTagged: orgasm, Sexual Abuse, Lock Eyes
“Do you have a specific way that you masturbate? Some women masturbate the exact same way every time, and actually wind up creating mental blockages to reaching orgasm with a partner (this happens a lot for men too, by the way). You may find yourself distracted because you’re critiquing his speed or…”— Vanessa Marin, bustle.comTagged: orgasm, masturbation, Variety
“As you’re having sex, look at what your partner is doing to you, and narrate all of the action to yourself. For example, ‘he’s using his tongue to trace circles around my clitoris. Now he’s flicking my clitoris with the tip of his tongue.’ This suggestion might sound kind of silly, but it can be ext…”— Vanessa Marin, bustle.comTagged: orgasm, dirty talk, Sexy Thoughts