“We need to swap the Romantic view for a tragic (and at points comedic) awareness that every human will frustrate, anger, annoy, madden and disappoint us — and we will (without any malice) do the same to them. There can be no end to our sense of emptiness and incompleteness. But none of this is unusu…”— Alain de Botton, nytimes.comTagged: How to be good at love, Marriage
“The person who is best suited to us is not the person who shares our every taste (he or she doesn’t exist), but the person who can negotiate differences in taste intelligently — the person who is good at disagreement. Rather than some notional idea of perfect complementarity, it is the capacity to t…”— Alain de Botton, nytimes.comTagged: Love, Relationships, Couples, Marriage
“Choosing whom to commit ourselves to is merely a case of identifying which particular variety of suffering we would most like to sacrifice ourselves for.”— Alain de Botton, nytimes.comTagged: Alain de Botton, Love, Relationships, Couples, Marriage
“WE need to swap the Romantic view for a tragic (and at points comedic) awareness that every human will frustrate, anger, annoy, madden and disappoint us — and we will (without any malice) do the same to them. There can be no end to our sense of emptiness and incompleteness.”— Alain de Botton, nytimes.comTagged: Relationships, Loneliness, Emptiness, Perspective, Marriage
“We should learn to accommodate ourselves to “wrongness,” striving always to adopt a more forgiving, humorous and kindly perspective on its multiple examples in ourselves and in our partners.”— Alain de Botton, nytimes.comTagged: Marriage, Love, Relationships, Conflict, forgiveness
“Embrace a philosophy of pessimism. Every human will disappoint you, and you'll do the same to them.”— Alain de Botton, nytimes.comTagged: Marriage, Human Relationships, Bad Friendship, Real Friendship