You always put yourself first. Always. So I did the same thing.
— Mike White, Dominic Di Grasso, Michael Imperioli, imdb.com
You always put yourself first. Always. So I did the same thing.
— Mike White, Dominic Di Grasso, Michael Imperioli, imdb.com
In a culture where we are encouraged to be open about our mental health, is there a limit to how much we should share? And if so, what is that limit?
I care more about their feelings, their needs, their boundaries, than I care about how much that care takes from me. How much it hurts to be an endless font of care.
If internalizers were shamed for their sensitive emotions during childhood, as adults they may be embarrassed to show any deep emotion. They may say “I’m sorry” when they start crying in a therapist’s office, as though they should be able to talk about their emotional pain without showing it. Some e…
I’m not a therapist or a victims’ advocate, as much as I appreciate both of those fields. I’m not an expert at helping people unpack their own trauma, although I like to think I ask good questions.
Julliard has taken steps since Grey's post to heal the community, both Woetzel and Evan Yionoulis, dean and director of the drama division, asserted.
Trauma creates the fundamental belief that we must betray who we are in order to survive.
I want to carry what’s mine to carry, claiming my life experiences, my war wounds, instead of wishing I’d had some other story.
When exposed to a moving toy or a strange room, babies with cloth mothers rushed to them, buried their faces in the soft fabric and relaxed. Their peers, with only wire mothers, shook in terror against the wall. Left alone for months with only wire mothers, they pined away, staring at the world with…
It took me a longer time to understand he was ill and had an addiction... That allowed me to have more peace. It wasn’t him at his core.
This is not therapy. This is just a memoir.
Jack was so good — so damn scary. I can only imagine how many women go through this kind of thing.
It wouldn't be helpful for me to like, assign trauma to it because of the objective truth of it.
We cannot control anything outside of ourselves. Though most of still attempt to, as a way to stay safe.
At first it felt awkward; this is not who we are. But week after week, one by one, we shared our lives with each other, as if our togetherness were natural.
I have heard all of the stories about girls like me, and I am unafraid to make more of them.
That anyone could think us a romance nauseated me, while crime and drama seemed overblown.
I survived because I remained soft, because I listened, because I wrote.
We were fighting for closure, for justice. It was not for me, but at the expense of me, that we’d be able to get there.
You don't sound crazy to me. You sound like someone who's been through a trauma and is looking for a way to feel safe again and in control. And there is nothing crazy about that.
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