“Between sips of kale juice at the Soho Grand, a chic Manhattan hotel near her apartment, she is explaining to me why time has hardened our view of adultery. ‘It’s because fidelity is the last thing left that defines a marriage,’ she says. ‘You don’t need to wait to have sex, you don’t need kids. You…”— Esther Perel, Emily Bobrow, 1843magazine.com
“You met him at some temple, where they take your clothes at the door He was just a numberless man in a chair who'd just come back from the war. And you wrap up his tired face in your hair and he hands you the apple core Then he touches your lips now so suddenly bare of all the kisses we put on some…”— Leonard Cohen, open.spotify.com
“I moved on her [a married woman] actually, she was down in Palm Beach and I failed. I'll admit it. I did try to fuck her, she was married … and I moved on her very heavily. I took her out furniture shopping. She wanted to get some furniture and I told her 'I'll show you where you can get some nice f…”— Donald Trump, nbcnews.com
“It would be foolish not to take the circumstances into consideration. Was the person who cheated on you someone with whom you were in a long-term relationship and the cheating was a one-night stand under the influence of alcohol? That would be much different than if it was someone you'd only just st…”— Dr. Ruth Westheimer, articles.chicagotribune.com
“We don’t know the exact numbers because people lie about sex and 10 times more about adultery. But the vast majority of people we come into contact with in our offices are content in their marriages. They are longtime monogamists who one day cross a line into a place they never thought they would go…”— Esther Perel, slate.com
“All marriages are alike to the degree that confronting an affair forces the couple to reevaluate their relationship, but dissimilar in how the couple lives with the legacy of that affair. I already knew the marriages I was tracing in these follow-up interviews had survived; now I wanted to assess th…”— Esther Perel, estherperel.com
“After the revelation of an affair, some couples have the most passionate sex they’ve ever had. That’s a big, unspoken truth. There’s something about the fear of loss that triggers desire and a depth of conversation that helps some people access a new level of honesty.”— Esther Perel, insidehook.com
“We had the benefit of a fabulous counselor who helped us work through the fallout of infidelity. Who taught my husband how to just be with me in my pain and accept responsibility without flinching. She showed us how to rebuild a marriage based on honesty and transparency. She made it clear that no m…”— Anonymous Woman, yesandyes.org
“Whether we like to admit it or not, getting drunk and hooking up with strangers is a pretty big part of what our generation likes to do on the weekends. In no way does that make cheating okay, but it does make it easier to forgive. How harshly can we really judge a twenty-year old guy who has only e…”— Jessica Pena, studybreaks.com
“In the end, taking a cheating spouse back is a difficult decision to make. But in some cases, surprisingly, doing so can completely change the relationship for the better.”— Opal Stacie, madamenoire.com
“I stayed because I loved her, and she seemed genuinely remorseful. It never happened again. Sometimes people do things they regret. Sometimes people deserve second chances. When you forgive somebody of something, you have to actually stop letting it affect how you treat that person. That doesn’t mea…”— Anonymous Guy, huffingtonpost.com
“Deciding if you can trust your boyfriend after he betrayed you is one of the most difficult – and perhaps one of the most important – decisions you’ll ever make. Nobody can tell you if he’ll never cheat on you again. You need to listen to the still small voice inside you, and take a leap of faith.”— Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen, theadventurouswriter.com
“Ultimately, it wasn't the kids who kept us together; it was that there was still love in the relationship—and there was a sense of deeply knowing him. I knew, in my core, that this was a mistake, not a personality flaw. And the fact that he was clearly in pain and willing to do whatever it took gave…”— Naomi Chrisoulakis, prevention.com
“If he’s committed to making this work, then I’m going to trust that he knows better than to be reckless with this relationship again. It’s about rebuilding trust, too. I made the choice to trust that he can change and give him another shot.”— Savannah Hemmings, thefrisky.com
“I’ll never do it again. But it’s not like I’ve had some ethical reawakening. All that sneaking around will drive a man crazy after a while. Even if you’re in a bad place in your marriage, the deceit will weigh on you and it’s just not worth it in the end. My exploits will probably send me to the gra…”— Anonymous Guy, thoughtcatalog.com
“All I have to do is remember the expression on my girlfriend’s face the first and only time she caught me cheating. She was so fucking crushed, it killed me. And then she managed to forgive me. I don’t want to do that to her ever again. She deserves so much better.”— Anonymous Guy, thoughtcatalog.com
“It’s not that I’m that good of a guy, but I hate discomfort and there’s nothing more awkward than having to face your girlfriend one-on-one after feeling some other chick up or crossing some kind of boundary, however far you go. Believe, I know—but I’m a changed guy now. I don’t cheat because I know…”— Anonymous Guy, thoughtcatalog.com
“Change requires developing a new set of beliefs and a whole new philosophy. Developing ones mindset. That was the journey that I embarked upon. Becoming the best me that I could be did not include lying, stealing, or cheating. Not being a cheater is simply a byproduct of being the person that I have…”— Cliff Townsend, goodmenproject.com
“You don't have to be a jerk to be adulterous — a lot people cheat purely because they aren’t happy in the relationship. Not everyone can have the mature ‘I don’t think this is working out’ talk. Some people take another way out. Because nothing says ‘I'm not satisfied in my relationship’ like bangin…”— Brian Whitney, bustle.com
“You used to be a cheater. You’re not one now. Here’s the rule: Once you cheat, you MUST know why it happened so that it will NEVER happen again. You didn’t cheat because you’re a horrible person. You cheated because you couldn’t deal with horrible feelings. Cheating is just a symptom of something de…”— Harlan Cohen, harlancohen.com