“Narcissists are masters of moving the goal posts so that nothing their victims do is ever enough. As childhood abuse survivors, we are no exception to that rule. Our accomplishments are rarely acknowledged unless they meet an arbitrary criteria for “what looks best to society,” or confirms the narci…”— Shahida Arabi, thoughtcatalog.com
“Grandiosity, self-importance, and requiring admiration and compliance with his own expectations are the attributes of the narcissistic father. The narcissistic father is critical and perfectionistic to the point where no one can meet his standards. The father gives loyalty to those who hold the fath…”— Selma Nemer, amazon.com
“A daughter of narcissistic abuse idealizes her father to compensate for the reality of his persecution; otherwise, she could not exist, for existence would be intolerable in a world where primary figures, which should be protective and loving, are not.”— Selma Nemer, amazon.com
“Each daughter of a narcissistic father experienced the need to perform, excel, care for others, and provide, never again to be vulnerable, where the libido experienced a lack of mirroring, absence and loss. Each daughter had to be better than her mother in order to be loved, but was not loved for he…”— Selma Nemer, amazon.com
“The emptiness and chaotic infantile needs of a narcissistic father for merger with the feminine are unmet by a collapsed and depressed wife who has either chosen to subjugate her power to support the male myth or has had it belittled away. The mother equates pleasing with acceptance and love. This i…”— Selma Nemer, amazon.com
“Aggression is declaring our own feelings in the face of an important other without retracting our truths out of fear of abandonment. Aggression is the capacity to take our voices and truths into the world, into movement, into active imagination. Abuse interferes with the daughter's healthy aggressio…”— Selma Nemer PhD, amazon.com
“A daughter of a narcissistic father unconsciously sacrifices her self, seething and stuffing the resentment. For years she may not even know she is angry, yet symptoms appear. The shell begins to crack; the veneer is thin. Her authentic wants and needs have never been experienced, so they cannot be…”— Selma Nemer, amazon.com
“Daughters of narcissistic fathers learn rules by observing the relationship of the mother and father. Roles become unconsciously internalized.”— Selma Nemer, amazon.com