The emptiness and chaotic infantile needs of a narcissistic father for merger with the feminine are unmet by a collapsed and depressed wife who has either chosen to subjugate her power to support the male myth or has had it belittled away. The mother equates pleasing with acceptance and love. This initiates collusion: the narcissistic father will reign as tyrant king and the mother will denigrate her own voice and power, reining them in to support the narcissistic kingdom.

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