Quotes tagged ‘rough sex’

“All that leather and latex in BDSM has a purpose. It adds tactile and visual novelty by changing the way a partner's body feels and looks during sex. Change something about yourself. More vamp, less Victoria's Secret. Wear a new fragrance or a temporary tattoo.”

— Debra Macleod, huffingtonpost.com

“Some guys secretly love dressing up in frilly underpants, stockings, garter belters and other woman’s clothing. And others hate it. Either way, you can leverage the ‘sissification’ of your submissive to your advantage by rewarding him with something lacy or punishing him with it!”

— Adriana, badgirlsbible.com

“You can ride him around, instruct him to crawl on all fours with your crop and even reward him with a carrot — or something more tantalizing — if he’s a good boy.”

— Adriana, badgirlsbible.com

“If you’re just starting out, try a stretchy cock ring on for size. After he’s comfortable wearing that, you can carefully measure for a stone, glass or metal cock ring.”

— Adriana, badgirlsbible.com

“Biting is a great entry-level way to play.”

— Emma McGowan, bustle.com

“Incorporating ‘sir’ or ‘madam.”

— Emma McGowan, bustle.com

“Don’t do anything too complicated to start with. You’re trying to have fun not earn a merit badge for your Shibari knot work. Tease your lover’s senses with a blindfold and an ice cube or a feather. Try tying your partner’s hands together with paper streamers or something else that they can easily e…”

— Adam, adameve.com

“Pee right before, even if you just went 30 minutes ago. When you're feeling that lovely vibration of rope running across your bare skin is not the time to be hearing the call of nature.”

— Rope Bottoming, ropebottoming.com

“Eat beforehand but don't stuff yourself. You want to feel delirious from bliss, not hunger. But when that rope coils around your waist, you also don't want it to be squishing a stomach full of meatball hero.”

— Rope Bottoming, ropebottoming.com

“Although it's often more tempting to play sex games when you're feeling a bit tipsy, it's best not to try bondage when you're under the influence of drink or drugs, as you might misjudge how tightly to tie the knots or, as the restrained person, be unable to establish your comfort levels in an accur…”

— Emily Dubberley, huffingtonpost.co.uk

“Hoods are an even more extreme form of head bondage.”

— Sean Jameson, badgirlsbible.com

“Use spatulas, rulers or paint sticks as makeshift paddles.”

— Sean Jameson, badgirlsbible.com

“Belts make great spanking implements.”

— Sean Jameson, badgirlsbible.com

“Use leashes, collars, and leather.”

— Ali, autostraddle.com

“Use degrading nicknames (ex, ‘my dirty little slut.’) (I put degrading in quotes because when done in consensual play these names feel anything but degrading.)”

— Ali, autostraddle.com

“Read erotica. A good way to see examples of a TON of different kinds of tops and how they do their thing is to seek out some erotica on the subject.”

— Ali, autostraddle.com

“Have your partner carry out your wishes. It could be a foot massage, brushing your hair, licking something sweet off of your favorite body parts, or providing with oral pleasure. Make sure to give them plenty of instructions and be firm.”

— Kat Richter, livluv.com

“Try tying your partner up and making them squirm with ice cubes, a feather, warming lotion, or another fun torture device.”

— Kat Richter, livluv.com

“Light plenty of candles and lie your partner down on his or her back before undressing them from the waist up. Peel their top off but don't remove it all the way. Instead, wind the fabric around their wrists and apply a gentle pressure to let them know you're in control.”

— Kat Richter, livluv.com

“Check circulation often by looking for areas of skin that might be turning blue or white. Check in with your activity partner often, and make sure they notify you if they start to feel pins and needles or numbness.”

— Carolyn Yates, autostraddle.com