“Touch yourself. I want you to masturbate at the same time as me.”— Holly Riordan, thoughtcatalog.com
“Send your guy a text when you know he’s wrapping up for the day to give him a taste of what’s to come. You can do it with words (‘Come find me when you get home. I’ll be in the bedroom…;)’) or via a sexy close-up pic, like one of your lacy bra peeking out of your low-cut top.”— Korin Miller, womenshealthmag.com
“Touch yourself. If you’re going to sext, you might as well get an orgasm out of it. That’s the entire point. So slip under your covers with a vibrator and his sexts.”— Holly Riordan, thoughtcatalog.com
“Don't send him a dirty picture just because you’re worried he’ll stray. If he’s into you, he won’t.”— Maria Loren, thoughtcatalog.com
“Just like foreplay, sexting is all about the buildup. The longer it takes, the better. The prolonged anticipation will keep both you and your partner wanting more, and the two of you can keep going at it until you’re satisfied (wink wink).”— Gina Escandon, hercampus.com
“Calling certain body parts by their scientifically correct names makes them sound like a disease. Saying labia over pussy is completely fine–it’s whatever works for you. However, there is a fine line where maybe you should use slang terms, or consider not saying the anatomically correct name at all.…”— Gina Escandon, hercampus.com
“Be polite. We don’t mean saying please and thank you, but keep in mind that you’re still talking to a real person with feelings. Sexting is definitely not a situation where you should ever mock someone or make them feel insecure about what they’re saying.”— Gina Escandon, hercampus.com
“Before you send a sext, keep in mind that there's potential for it to be shared amongst your guy's friends. Don't say anything too incriminating, and don't send something that you wouldn't want someone else to hear (or associate you with). Keep it tame if you're concerned.”— Jen Kirsch, yourtango.com
“If you've had some back and forth banter and then, out of nowhere, the recipient stops responding, let it go. If you text, "Why did you stop messaging?" "Where did you go?" or "Why did you leave me high and dry?" you not only come off looking desperate, but a bit aggressive, too.”— Jen Kirsch, yourtango.com
“The whole point of sexting is to be flirtatious and tempt him with words to make him crave you. Using big words or innuendos might throw him off, especially when the dude has no idea what the hell you're talking about”— Jen Kirsch, yourtango.com
“Say exactly what you mean, don't be vague. Sure, an "I miss you," text is nice, but if what you're actually missing are his hands squeezing your ass or his mouth on your boobs, then say that!”— Hannah Smothers, cosmopolitan.com
“Add voice memos of things, like you moaning his name. Bring in all the components you can. Make your sexts a full sensory experience.”— Hannah Smothers, cosmopolitan.com
“Don't just tell him what you're doing, tell him how it makes you feel, how it tastes, how it looks.”— Hannah Smothers, cosmopolitan.com
“Don't sext something you'd never actually say in real life. Be yourself.”— Ariel Nagi, cosmopolitan.com
“You want to tempt your guy, so saying something like "When I get home I'm going to try out that sex toy with you" sounds like you're making dinner plans. Instead, have him guessing with something like: "I just bought something, and I think you'll drool when you see me in it tonight." We guanrantee h…”— Ariel Nagi, cosmopolitan.com
“There are apps for sexting. Ever see Kik or Yak attached to someone's Instagram or Twitter profile? Like Snapchat, these apps are used internationally to help some people keep in touch, but they also make it easy to send sexts to your European lover.”— Dana Cartwright, complex.com
“Like you learned in English class, get descriptive. Build the image you want them to see. From the details of where you’d like to put your hands, to where you’d like them to put their mouth. Show, don’t tell. Use the five senses”— Dana Cartwright, complex.com
“The thing about sexting is, it should happen in real time, meaning old photos originally saved on your iPhone 4s don't work. The most successful sexts are those that reference and take advantage of objects, body parts, and clothing you have in front of you in that moment. Just like if you were inter…”— Dana Cartwright, complex.com
“Stir the pot slowly! Send something suggestive that could be construed as non-sexual, like a photo of you in bed with f*ck-me eyes captioned, ‘I’m tired,’ or one showing a teensy bit of evidence that your ‘tan lines from the beach are crazy...’ See where it goes from there.”— Brooke Sager, thrillist.com
“Sexting is a two-way street requiring give and take. If they set the scene with, ‘I’m licking your chest and slowly moving downward...’ don’t reply, ‘And then?’ Um, and then it’s your move.”— Brooke Sager, thrillist.com