“There is only one emotion that patriarchy values when expressed by men; that emotion is anger. Real men get mad. And their mad-ness, no matter how violent or violating, is deemed natural— a positive expression of patriarchal masculinity. Anger is the best hiding place for anybody seeking to conceal…”Tagged: Anger, Emotion, Male
“Men of integrity are not ashamed to serve. They are caretakers, guardians, keepers of the flame. They know joy.”Tagged: Integrity, Service
“The ability to critique oneself and change and to hear critique from others is the condition of being that makes us capable of responsibility.”Tagged: Critique, Growth
“Abuse and neglect negate love. Care and affirmation, the opposite of abuse and humiliation, are the foundation of love. No one can rightfully claim to be loving when behaving abusively.”Tagged: Love, Abuse, Neglect, Behavior
“Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of…”
“Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.”Tagged: Love, Alone, Introversion, Introspection, Being Happy Alone
“Many of us choose relationships of affection and care that will never become loving because they feel safer. The demands are not as intense as loving requires. The risk is not as great. So many of us long for love but lack the courage to take risks. Even tough we are obsessed with the idea of love…”Tagged: Tough Love, Relationship, Love, Life, Courage
“Love is profoundly political. Our deepest revolution will come when we understand this truth. Only love can give us the strength to go forward in the midst of heartbreak and misery. Only love can give us the power to reconcile, to redeem, the power to renew weary spirits and save lost souls. The…”Tagged: Love, Powerful, Activism, Social Change
“In patriarchal culture men are not allowed to simply be who they are and glory in their unique identity. Their value is always determined by what they do. In an anti-patriarchal culture males do not have to prove their value and worth. They know from birth that simply being gives them value, the…”Tagged: toxic masculinity, Patriarchy
“All men support and perpetuate sexism and sexist oppression in one form or another … Like women, men have been socialized to passively accept sexist ideology. While they need not blame themselves for accepting sexism, they must assume responsibility for eliminating it.”Tagged: toxic masculinity, Sexism
“Sometimes people try to destroy you, precisely because they recognize your power — not because they don’t see it, but because they see it and they don’t want it to exist.”Tagged: strength, enemies
“As long as women are using class or race or power to dominate other women, feminist sisterhood cannot be fully realized.”Tagged: feminism, Intersectional Feminism, Internalized Misogyny
“If you go door to door in our nation and talk to citizens about domestic violence, almost everyone will insist that they do not support male violence against women, that they believe it to be morally and ethically wrong. However, if you then explain that we can only end male violence against women…”Tagged: Love, Justice, Patriarchy, Violence