There is only one emotion that patriarchy values when expressed by men; that emotion is anger. Real men get mad. And their mad-ness, no matter how violent or violating, is deemed natural— a positive expression of patriarchal masculinity. Anger is the best hiding place for anybody seeking to conceal…
Catalog
Bell Hooks
Men of integrity are not ashamed to serve. They are caretakers, guardians, keepers of the flame. They know joy.
The ability to critique oneself and change and to hear critique from others is the condition of being that makes us capable of responsibility.
Abuse and neglect negate love. Care and affirmation, the opposite of abuse and humiliation, are the foundation of love. No one can rightfully claim to be loving when behaving abusively.
Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of…
Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.