Get the ingredients to make her favorite cocktail and have them waiting for her when she gets home.
Catalog
Chelsea Fagan
After nearly four years as a writer and eventual Creative Director of Branded Content at Thought Catalog, one of the most-visited publishers on the web, in late 2014 I launched my own site about personal finance, The Financial Diet, which has since grown to over a million pageviews a month.
If she’s wearing really nice heels for a night out, offer to grab a taxi as you’re about to head home so she doesn’t have to navigate the treacherous stairs of the metro after a long night.
Play with her hair while the two of you are watching TV. It doesn’t have to be complex, just a little light head touching/hair-messing-with will put her into a near-meditative state.
You don’t have to worry if they’ll like your friends, because you know they will. You don’t have to avoid the subject of your family, because they hope to meet them someday. Everything will be honest, and you won’t worry that the inconvenience of your real life will get between the very precarious…
You will know they love you when you are lying in bed and go to get up to start your day — don’t want to miss a sunny Saturday, there aren’t enough of those — and they pull you in closer to them. ‘Don’t go,’ they will tell you, ‘let’s just stay here together.’
You won’t be waiting by your phone, hoping that they will text you back, wondering if you weren’t aloof enough last time for them to remain interested. With them, it won’t be some race for who can seem to care less. The silence of your phone will no longer torment you with questions of what you did…
Most of life means being a part of a greater society. Whether that's your friend groups, your relationships, your office; we all have to get along and share the same spaces, and that means, whether or not we like it, we have to be concerned with how we're impacting other people.
Sometimes spend on experiences, sometimes spend on things, and sometimes stop fucking spending money.
There are so many reasons why living each day like it’s your last day is a terrible idea.
You should know when it’s really important to put in really concentrated effort, and the rest of the time you should be focused on not burning yourself out or spreading yourself too thin.
Your job performance will be judged on a few well-timed sprints throughout the year, and the rest of the time you should be walking.
If they’re not worthy of your respect, they’re not worthy of your hard work.
Everything seems way blown out of proportion when you're the only one thinking about it.
If you can't find the reason for the change that is tied to your own well-being, and your own mental health, you probably shouldn't be doing it.
Motivation that depends on other people will never give us what we need to continue. Because even if we do get other's approval, it will never feel nearly as good as our own quality of life.