“Be clear with your partner that you’re totally into feedback in the moment. As in, ‘a little to the left,’ ‘harder’ or ‘keep doing that.’ Remember: harder is not always better. It depends entirely on the person, but don’t assume that hard and fast always wins the race ’til you hear it from your partner.”
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