“Control the things you can control, maggot. Let everything else take a flying fuck at you and if you must go down, go down with your guns blazing.”— Stephen King, amazon.com
“Water is important to people who do not have it, and the same is true of control.”— Joan Didion, amazon.com
“What owns you in this life? Is it your desire for happiness? The past? The relationship that almost-was-but-ultimately-didn't Your body hang-up? Your fear? Your loneliness? Your lack of self-worth? Everybody has one thing that ultimately owns them, drives them, controls them at some visceral level.…”— Brianna Wiest, amazon.com
“If you really believed you didn't have control over something, you'd accept it as a matter of fact. What do you struggle to accept that you have 'no control' over? What part of you makes you think or hope otherwise?”— Brianna Wiest, amazon.com
“Every human has a monster in their head. It just depends on whether they let the monster control them or not.”— Michelle Lucic, wattpad.com
“Needing to know every detail of his/her day. As relationships grow you learn more and more about the other person; what they like, who they hang out with, where they go regularly. This should be a natural process that develops over time. When you demand to know all of these details up front it can m…”— Amber Lewter, rscounselingatlanta.com
“You lock in on him, grab onto that gorgeous head of hair, and take control. Hold his gaze. Your lips might just touch, but not yet. It's just gotta be the temptation... And then you give him one light kiss.”— Sophia Bush, Beth, amazon.com
“I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”— Oscar Wilde, amazon.com
“He will be very concerned about you. He may get upset if you don’t call him back right away or if you come home late. He will say it’s because he worries about you. He will start to question who you saw, where you went, and what you were doing. He will mask his control as concern for your well-being…”— Pamela Jacobs, huffingtonpost.com
“An abuser will often use gifts and romance to distract you from other concerning behaviors, such as control and jealousy.”— Pamela Jacobs, huffingtonpost.com
“If your partner is exhibiting inappropriate behavior with people outside of your relationship as a way to control you, punish you, or dictate your relationship, then they are emotionally abusing you and breaking your trust at the same time.”— Elizabeth Enochs, bustle.com
“You’re really sad about putting your dog down, your uncle’s illness, or losing that road race. You could really use a shoulder to cry on. But you know you can’t rely on your partner for that. In order to stay in control, emotional abusers need your focus to be on them. Their tolerance for your woes…”— Abby Rodman, huffingtonpost.com
“The reason many people in our society are miserable, sick, and highly stressed is because of an unhealthy attachment to things they have no control over.”— Steve Maraboli, Dr. Steve Maraboli, amazon.com
“It is a myth that abusers simply can’t ‘help it.’ Narcissists could easily take the same energy they use in controlling their public image or manufacturing chaos in their relationships and apply it to controlling their behavior in private, behind closed doors. They choose when and where it is "safe"…”— Shahida Arabi, thoughtcatalog.com
“YOUR ABUSIVE PARTNER DOESN’T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH HIS ANGER; HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR ANGER. One of the basic human rights he takes away from you is the right to be angry with him. No matter how badly he treats you, he believes that your voice shouldn’t rise and your blood shouldn’t boil. The privi…”— Lundy Bancroft, amazon.com
“He didn't know what was defeating him, but he sensed it was something he could not cope with, something that was far beyond his power to control or even at this point in time comprehend.”— Hubert Selby Jr., amazon.com