Images of female pleasure are threatening because of the link between sex and power and the gender binary that defines men as sexual conquerors and women as their prizes.
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Quotes tagged ‘Female Orgasm’
A common myth is that the clitoris is a one-stop button that will automatically open to the magical land of Narnia (or orgasm) when pressed. But actually, the reality is far more complicated: the way every clit responds to touch is different.
Be aware that a woman may not always be assertive about her needs in bed because she’s been socialized to please her partner. That’s why getting her off requires active listening and mindfulness.
Many people don’t like being touched if they are angry, but women seem to have more trouble than men with arousal if they are upset.
The difference in our bodies’ responses may make male-female connection especially tricky in such moments: this one simple difference in female reaction to different ways of being spoken to is one enormously significant reason that so many sexual approaches from men to women in long-term relationshi…
The woman literally often can’t take an intimate touch if her lover has recently been verbally disrespectful, or has failed verbally to soothe 'the Goddess in her' at some point beforehand, priming the release of oxytocin and vasopressin in her body and preparing the parasympathetic nervous system t…
Just as being valued and relaxed can heighten female sexual response, “bad stress” can dramatically interfere with all of women’s sexual processes.
To enter the transcendental state that takes the female brain into “high” orgasm, you absolutely need to feel safe; safe from “bad stress,” in the sense of knowing you are entering a trance state in the presence of someone who will protect you if necessary at the very least, and not endanger you or…
One could say that she actually becomes, biochemically, a wild woman or a maenad. She becomes so disinhibited and impervious to pain that it is as if she is in a state of altered consciousness. Women in “high” orgasm go more deeply into this trance state than at any other time. Judgment is suspended…
The full melting response or “high orgasm” in women—which I would define (though our language around female sexual response is so inadequate) as that kind of orgasm that most intensely induces the most complete possible trance state and that most involves all the body systems, so that afterward the…
The autonomic nervous system also responds to a woman’s sense of safety or danger. It sends the signals to the brain and then to the body that one is safe, so one can relax, eat, and digest; or relax and sleep; or relax and make love.
Gradually, I reexperienced the sense of deep emotional union, of postcoital creative euphoria, of joy with one’s self and with one’s lover, of confidence and volubility and the sense that all was well in some existential way, that I thought I had lost forever.
That’s what explained vaginal versus clitoral orgasms? Neural wiring? Not culture, not upbringing, not patriarchy, not feminism, not Freud?
So it was not just that orgasm might heighten creativity in women; maybe creativity also heightened orgasm.
You know, nobody knows what to do. You just close your eyes and you hope for the best. I really think they're happy if you just make an effort.
— Lawrence H. Levy, Larry David, Jerry Seinfeld, Jerry Seinfeld, imdb.com
The female orgasm is kinda like the bat cave. A very few people know where it is and if you're lucky enough to see it you probably don't know how you got there and you can't find you way back after you left. You know there are two types of female orgasm: the real and the fake. And I'll tell you righ…
— Lawrence H. Levy, Larry David, Jerry Seinfeld, Jerry Seinfeld, imdb.com
'She just finished! Time to go 100mph!!!'
So, um, was that an orgasm? When men orgasm, you know it. It's a whole thing. To leave no doubt, we collapse as if we just ran a marathon. So you can understand our confusion when, after you orgasm, you just keep on going like you're the freakin' Duracell bunny. Should we keep going? Should we wrap…
I am positive I am not the only one who is like this, but I will have tons of orgasms while you are sexing me up...if you just give me one good kick start. I might anyway, but it is basically guaranteed I will have tons if you, y'know, get me off first with some lovely oral or a even just quick hand…
Don't always be so gentle. Bite me, spank me, etc. etc.