“Fisting is actually just the insertion of four fingers into the vagina, slowly and steadily with the thumb working the clitoris. Fist has such a violent connotation.”— Rebecca Jane Stokes, yourtango.com
“Some women won't give, but will only receive, and others vice versa, but usually both women take an equal role and take their turn when it comes to roles during sex.”— Rebecca Jane Stokes, yourtango.com
“We can stimulate the clitoris with our fingers, hands, mouths and even other parts of our bodies.”— Heather Corinna, scarleteen.com
“Some women can only get off with a vibrator or other sex toy. Some women prefer to. Some women just really like vibrators or dildos included sometimes. Some women prefer not using them, or sometimes don't want to use them.”— Heather Corinna, scarleteen.com
“There are a lot of ways to put bodies together that feel good, no matter the gender of partners involved, and there really is little lesbians can't do which male-male or male-female couples can: everyone can engage in making out, petting, massage, frottage (sometimes called dry sex or, with women in…”— Heather Corinna, scarleteen.com
“Start by exploring the idea of hooking up with another woman using your imagination. This may sound like an overly simplistic piece of advice, but it can be quite useful.”— Vanessa Marin, bustle.com
“You don’t have to spill your entire story to your hook-up partner, but if you want to go further than just a little making out, you may want to consider sharing that it’s your first time with a woman. Whatever you decide, be respectful and kind to the gal you’re messing around with. Don’t make her f…”— Vanessa Marin, bustle.com
“If you want even more of a trial run before doing anything physical, try flirting with women out in public or putting a profile up on an online dating site. See how taking these additional steps makes you feel.”— Vanessa Marin, bustle.com
“Earlobes, nipples, and the area right below the belly button are direct links to the vagina.”— Riese, autostraddle.com
“I only have one tip: Let your hair sort of trace her back longitudinally from her buttcheeks up to her neck, then carry on with whatever. I fucking go insane.”— Riese, autostraddle.com
“If you're doing some crazy nonsense down there and hear something like, 'come here, I wanna kiss you,' that means you fucked up.”— Kelly McClure, vice.com
“If you remember only ONE thing, remember that that weird sucking thing you do hurts, and blowing into a vagina is a really bad idea.”— Kelly McClure, vice.com
“Don't pull out 'moves.' Be earnest and calm. I'd say that until you can gauge by moans and whimpers what they like the best (which hopefully you will, unless the girl makes zero noises, which sucks) just start by making your tongue really soft and wide, flatten it out on the pussy, and then proceed…”— Kelly McClure, vice.com
“Using pillows or furniture to get the perfect position is a great way to go. Or you can have them sit on your face if your neck gets tired.”— Ali, autostraddle.com
“Be clear with your partner that you’re totally into feedback in the moment. As in, ‘a little to the left,’ ‘harder’ or ‘keep doing that.’ Remember: harder is not always better. It depends entirely on the person, but don’t assume that hard and fast always wins the race ’til you hear it from your part…”— Ali, autostraddle.com
“Mouths aren’t just for oral sex! They’re for talking, too. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying things like, ‘Just FYI, I’ve never gone down on a vagina before.'”— Ali, autostraddle.com
“Don’t just focus on her breasts, her lips, and her clitoris. Kiss her toes, behind her knees, the small of her back and her fingertips. If you’ve never tried anal sex, discuss it with your partner and see if she’d be open to giving it a try.”— Kathy Belge, lesbianlife.about.com
“There are a lot more options than just dildos and vibrators. Browse a lesbian friendly vendor like Babeland or Good Vibrations and pick something out to take your loving to the next level.”— Kathy Belge, lesbianlife.about.com
“Take the time to read her a sexy story and get both your imaginations and your juices flowing.”— Kathy Belge, lesbianlife.about.com