“He doesn't deserve that moment of smug satisfaction. When he looks at his phone and sees your little note, he immediately thinks, ‘She wants me.’ Do you really want to give him that?”— Halle Kaye, bolde.com
“There are so many fantastic men out there — you should be spending your time exploring them. The sooner you do that, the sooner you’ll be blowing off texts from your ex because you’ll be crushing on someone new.”— Halle Kaye, bolde.com
“Texting him immediately diminishes your hotness. As long as you’re not in contact, he has no idea what you’re up to or what you’re thinking. For all he knows, you’re totally over it and haven’t given him a second thought, which makes you more desirable. By reaching out, you immediately kill that ill…”— Halle Kaye, bolde.com
“Missing him will slowly pass, no matter how difficult it may be. Texting him when you miss him, though, will only make you miss him more.”— Veronica Walsingham, thetalko.com
“Instead of texting him to discuss a movie or beg him to watch it, text a girlfriend instead. Girlfriends like movies too.”— Veronica Walsingham, thetalko.com
“For the big important things, it’s usually fine to text an ex but for smaller, every day things, you shouldn’t text your ex. It’s just your way of rationalizing reaching out to him when, really, you should be moving on.”— Veronica Walsingham, thetalko.com
“Anything you can say to an ex in a text is probably not worth the trouble of saying, despite the immediate gratification it might offer.”— Jamie Lauren Keiles, cosmopolitan.com
“The urge to text an ex can come from a variety of places: boredom, loneliness, horniness, thirst for attention, or even the inexplicable desire to create chaos in our own lives. These are valid urges, but why give your ex the unnecessary joy of satisfying them?”— Jamie Lauren Keiles, cosmopolitan.com
“I miss you, I think about you, I want to text you, but I shouldn’t. I shouldn’t do any of it because you don’t deserve it. I shouldn’t do it because I know you don’t care about me, and that’s the worst part about this all. I know you don’t care about me, yet I’m still hung up on you.”— Becca Martin, thoughtcatalog.com
“If it’s always you texting him first; if it’s always you laying on the couch staring at your phone, hoping that the hours of space between texts means he’s just busy; if it’s you always making the dates and the hangouts — you should take a step back and realize you are worth more.”— Lacey Ramburger, thoughtcatalog.com
“You are worth more than short late night texts and half interested conversations. More than vague compliments and empty promises.”— Lacey Ramburger, thoughtcatalog.com
“Put down the phone, darling. That’s right, I said put it down. If he hasn’t texted you back in an hour, or two, or three, just put it down. You are worth so much more than that.”— Lacey Ramburger, thoughtcatalog.com
“Ignore his text because you can. That lie you’re telling yourself about why you’re answering or you’re not strong enough to ignore it, is only that… a lie. You’re strong enough to ignore his text.”— Kirsten Corley, thoughtcatalog.com
“Ignore his text because you and I both know you deserve more than someone who makes you wonder how they feel about you.”— Kirsten Corley, thoughtcatalog.com
“If you absolutely must, type out the message. Then, send it to YOURSELF, and wait many, many hours. I promise you that the extreme desire to send your ex that text message will pass.”— Alexia LaFata, thoughtcatalog.com
“Why text them anything at all if every single one of the possible responses you can get will ultimately leave you feeling empty?”— Alexia LaFata, thoughtcatalog.com
“Take a second to be real with yourself. You are not texting your ex because you genuinely care about what homework assignment they’re working on. You are not texting your ex just to tell them how angry you are. No. You are texting them with the hope that they will realize the error of their ways, wi…”— Alexia LaFata, thoughtcatalog.com
“I miss you the most during the day when I want to text you to tell you about random silly moments that popped up throughout my day.”— Alexandria Brown, thoughtcatalog.com