“First, figure out if your ready for a situation like this and if you’re capable of leaving the emotions at the door before you enter. Be straightforward with your reasons for wanting a casual hook up instead of a relationship and relay that to the other person.”— Jessica McKinney, collegecandy.comTagged: Casual Sex, emotions, Honesty
“Don't overthink it. Don’t overanalyze his texts, don’t read into the way he kisses you and don’t think he means one thing when he says another.”— Frances Van Eeden, fashionweekly.com.auTagged: Casual Sex, Overthinking, overanalyzing
“Have many friends in common? Avoid being sex buddies with the person. You’ll end up spending a lot of time washing dirty linen in public if the cat gets out of the bag. Worse, if you have a frenemy, you could easily be the next topic for spicy gossip.”— Party Gal, idiva.comTagged: Casual Sex, Friends, Frenemies
“Don't get too personal. So basically, save any conversation about family issues or your exes for deeper relationships.”— Zahra Barnes, self.comTagged: Casual Sex, Intimate, personal
“Repeat to yourself before, after and during sex: This is not about love, nor will it ever be. Remind yourself that all the pleasure and happiness you are feeling is a CHEMICAL response. You are not special to the person who are shagging, and he is not special to you.”— Maura Kelly, marieclaire.comTagged: Casual Sex, meaningless, Chemicals
“Sex is sex, and if you’re just going to have sex then you cannot talk about your feelings with each other. No meaningful conversations, no intimate evenings, and no crying on his shoulder.”— Trina, youqueen.comTagged: Casual Sex, Sex, Intimate, Feelings
“If intercourse is proving to be too difficult for you, you can try taking it off the table for casual hook-ups. You can still have a ton of fun without having intercourse. You may find it easier to stay emotionally detached if you stick with less intimate activities.”— Vanessa Marin, bustle.comTagged: Casual Sex, Intercourse, Making Out, Intimacy
“You can only fuck somebody you actually like. Like as in respect. Like as in, would introduce to your roommate if paths crossed in the kitchen the morning after. Like as in, wouldn’t actively go out of your way to be an asshole to. If you want a punching bag, go to the gym – not the bedroom.”— Laura Jane Williams, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: Casual Sex, Respect, kindness
“It's important to know that just because you are sleeping with someone, you don't necessarily have to sleep over. It's perfectly fine to leave an hour after you've arrived.”— College Times, collegetimes.comTagged: Casual Sex, Sleepover, Leaving
“In order to avoid these misplaced, tangled feelings, stop ‘hanging out.’ You are not supposed to be BFFs and then also have a no strings attached relationship. That’s just not possible! You have to take serious precautions to make sure your lives don’t intertwine beyond the physical!”— Riya Roy, newlovetimes.comTagged: Casual Sex, Friends, Friendship
“Don’t say that you love this person. It’s very easy to feel intensely attracted to someone you’re having sex with and spending time often. If you feel like saying ‘I love you’ because they make you feel so good, hold that thought. Saying those three words will take your relationship to a whole new s…”— Sarah Summer, lovepanky.comTagged: Casual Sex, Love, affection
“Be safe. Always always always use protection correctly. And know that condoms may not always protect you from everything (herpes, HPV…), so ask questions too (e.g. ‘Do you always use protection?’ and ‘When’s the last time you were tested?’). Oh, yeah, and don’t let a complete stranger tie you up dur…”— Em Lo, yourtango.comTagged: Casual Sex, Safety, Protection, condoms
“Although casual hook ups don’t need to be planned or picked from a line up, be aware that randomly picking from a large pool can be dangerous. If you want a night of casual sex, that’s fine, but don’t walk up to the first ‘rando’ with the cut body. Play it safe and do your research.”— Jessica McKinney, collegecandy.comTagged: Casual Sex, Safety, hookups
“If you really don’t want a relationship, you need to say that at the beginning, out loud, and face-to-face.”— Laura Jane Williams, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: Casual Sex, Honesty, Truth
“Find a place to yourself. Try to keep your hookup session as private as possible. For everyone's sake.”— Ashley Reese, gurl.comTagged: Casual Sex, Alone, Privacy
“Don’t let anyone try to use casual dating against you. Slut shaming isn’t cool, and you still have feelings even if you don’t want to settle down.”— Adriana, badgirlsbible.comTagged: Casual Sex, Slut Shaming, Feelings
“Don't think that a friends with benefits situation is a good way to start a regular relationship.”— College Times, collegetimes.comTagged: Casual Sex, Relationship, serious relationship
“If fun is what you want and not commitment, then you don’t want to get friendly with his family or vice versa. His folks and yours will end up getting hurt when the ‘relationship’ meets its natural end.”— Party Gal, idiva.comTagged: Casual Sex, Family, Parents
“Don’t cuddle, the temptation will be there... but whatever you do – don’t cuddle”— Frances Van Eeden, fashionweekly.com.auTagged: Casual Sex, cuddling, Temptation
“Take a 'no' gracefully. Don’t be offended if he doesn’t oblige you when you’re in the mood for some either. He’s not at your beck and call.”— Party Gal, idiva.comTagged: Casual Sex, Say No, Rejection
“In a casual relationship, you are not supposed to ask them for even petty favors. They are your partner, remember? So no 'Can you get me some grocery on your way home?’ ‘Can you see me now, I feel sad?!’ Not even a text asking for a pint of ice cream! A booty call is not going to do this for you.”— Riya Roy, newlovetimes.comTagged: Casual Sex, favors, booty calls
“One of the realities of casual sex is that the more time you spend together, the easier it is to become attached. It’s natural to develop feelings for someone with whom you’re spending a lot of time. You may want to consider not to seeing your sexual partner more than a couple of times a month.”— Vanessa Marin, bustle.comTagged: Casual Sex, Time, Distance
“Don't obsess. Don't think that just because you had a good time, you might be able to turn this into a relationship. Remember your intentions! You're only going to break your own heart if you fixate on this person. Does it happen that one-night stands sometimes turn into relationships? Sure. But don…”— Marianne, xojane.comTagged: Casual Sex, one-night stands, obsessions
“Keep the pillow talk to a bare minimum.”— Jamie Rea, rsvlts.comTagged: Casual Sex, Pillow Talk, Intimacy
“His love life is none of your business because you and he are not an item. Remember that because you have no right to be jealous.”— Trina, youqueen.comTagged: Casual Sex, Jealousy, Jealous
“Be nice. Just because you’re never going to see someone again doesn’t mean that your manners should fly out the window.”— Em Lo, yourtango.comTagged: Casual Sex, kindness, Manners
“Don’t fall for manipulation, and don’t manipulate your casual buddy. Don’t say things that can confuse them like ‘I can’t imagine not having you in my life, but I do want you to meet other people and fall in love with someone else…’”— Sarah Summer, lovepanky.comTagged: Casual Sex, manipulation, Confusion
“Don't give in to pressure. Look, if you wanted to have a random make out session but your partner is pressuring you to go further, don't give in. Do what you're comfortable with and make the other person deal with it.”— Ashley Reese, gurl.comTagged: Casual Sex, pressure, Making Out