30 Reminders For Anyone Who's Ever Felt That They're Unlovable

“If you want to change the way others treat you, you should first change the way you treat yourself.”

— Elif Shafak, amazon.com

“Realize that loving yourself is more important than having a line of boys ask you out on a date.”

— Sade Andria Zabala, amazon.com

“If they don’t need you, it’s okay, you do not live for other people.”

— Anonymous, dignitea.tumblr.com

“You aren’t a lot to handle. You’re magnificent. You aren’t a lot to handle. You’re just fine. You aren’t a lot to handle. You’re just YOU.”

— Kendra Syrdal, thoughtcatalog.com

“You are not hard to love if you can love yourself and no one has the authority to break you except you.”

— Sade Andria Zabala, amazon.com

“You either like me or you don’t. It took me twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don’t have that kinda time to convince somebody else.”

— Daniel Franzese, goodreads.com

“Sometimes you need to remind yourself that you were the one who carried you through the heartache. You are the one who sits with the cold body on the shower floor, and picks it up. You are the one who feeds it, who clothes it, who tucks it into bed, and you should be proud of that. Having the streng…”

— Anonymous, raihaniac.tumblr.com

“You not finding me attractive is not going to stop me from being attractive.”

— farfrompaid, baebiigurl.tumblr.com

“I am the book you pick up but never buy. I am the book you open but never finish to read and that’s okay. I write for myself anyway.”

— Sade Andria Zabala, amazon.com

“He loves me, he loves me not? I’m not a flower. I’m the fucking sun.”

— Sade Andria Zabala, amazon.com

“It is not your responsibility to turn a coward into a champion.”

— Ari Eastman, thoughtcatalog.com

“how far have you walked for men who’ve never held your feet in their laps? how often have you bartered with bone, only to sell yourself short? why do you find the unavailable so alluring? where did it begin? what went wrong? and who made you feel so worthless?”

— Warsan Shire, larmoyante.tumblr.com

“No one will ever accept anything. I think the goal is to not want anyone's acceptance.”

— Nicki Minaj, alien-bambi.tumblr.com

“I hope that you do not let the world condemn you for being too loud, too expressive, too soft; that you do not let it convince you to be perfect instead of real. I truly hope that you celebrate the fact that you are not for everyone, that you are not impressing the kinds of people who were built on…”

— Bianca Sparacino, thoughtcatalog.com

“Does the sun ask itself, ‘Am I good? Am I worthwhile? Is there enough of me?’ No, it burns and it shines. Does the sun ask itself, ‘What does the moon think of me? How does Mars feel about me today?’ No it burns, it shines. Does the sun ask itself, ‘Am I as big as other suns in other galaxies?’ No,…”

— Andrea Dworkin, amazon.com

“Greater things await you. Yes, you deserve them. Yes, you are capable.”

— Sade Andria Zabala, amazon.com

“Practicing self-love means learning how to trust ourselves, to treat ourselves with respect, and to be kind and affectionate toward ourselves.”

— Brené Brown, amazon.com

“Don’t you see? You were born a revolution. Not all men were made to join you in your brilliance. Not all men can handle fire. Some men will run, too afraid of the flames.”

— Ari Eastman, thoughtcatalog.com

“You are hard to look at not because you glow, but because you are the drop off of a skyscraper. You are the distance to the ground, you are what people fear to fall into, you are what people risk their lives to see. And when someone does finally see you, it is because they were courageous enough to…”

— Lillian Shelton, helladopeprncs.tumblr.com

“It's really comfortable when you start loving yourself enough. You stop settling for less. You stop forcing yourself to do something you don't want to. You stop being with someone who makes you feel bad. You stop comparing yourself to anyone or anything around. You become a whole kingdom yourself.”

— Shahd El Hadidy, facebook.com

“It took many years of vomiting up all the filth I’d been taught about myself, and half-believed, before I was able to walk on the earth as though I had a right to be here.”

— James Baldwin, amazon.com

“I LOVE YOU. I LOVE YOU. Say it when no one says it to you, like a prayer you give for the dead”

— Sade Andria Zabala, amazon.com

“Be kind to yourself while blooming. I know sometimes it feels like your soul doesn’t always fit. It’s all a part of the process.”

— Emery Allen, emeryallen.tumblr.com

“I am a woman with thoughts and questions and shit to say. I say if I’m beautiful. I say if I’m strong. You will not determine my story — I will.”

— Amy Schumer, vulture.com

“love will come and when love comes love will hold you love will call your name and you will melt sometimes though love will hurt you but love will never mean to love will play no games cause love knows life has been hard enough already”

— Rupi Kaur, amazon.com

“To the people who love you, you are beautiful already. This is not because they’re blind to your shortcomings but because they so clearly see your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and beautiful, too.”

— Victoria Moran, amazon.com

“I never used to be bothered by how small I was. Then something happened… and I was. Then I fell in love with myself again, and I wasn’t bothered anymore. I never will be again.”

— Quinta Brunson, thequintab.tumblr.com

“Do not feel lonely, the entire universe is inside you.”

— Rumi, goodreads.com