40 Relationship Truths You'll Need To Swallow Before You Find A Relationship That Lasts

“If you want to meet your true love, don’t focus on wanting someone to take away your loneliness or make you feel less unloved. Instead think about everything you have to offer the right person, and imagine the beautiful, productive relationship you will have, which is what you will project and attra…”

— Jillian Michaels, amazon.com

“If you think love is something that exists anywhere but within your own mind and heart, you will never have it.”

— Brianna Wiest, amazon.com

“If you keep giving up on people so quickly, you're gonna miss out on something great.”

— Robin Scherbatsky, amazon.com

“People cannot transmute emotions, which is interesting to consider when you realize how utterly consumed the human race is with the concept of getting other people to love us.”

— Brianna Wiest, amazon.com

“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.”

— Robert Holden, books.google.com

“Happiness isn’t something you get from a relationship (although a relationship can certainly add to your level of happiness), it’s something that spills into your relationship.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“People aren’t always what you want them to be. Sometimes they disappoint you or let you down, but you have to give them a chance first. You can’t just meet someone and expect them to be everything you’re looking for and then be angry when they’re not every hope and aspiration you projected onto them…”

— Chloe Rattray, amazon.com

“if you want to find lasting love and prevent yourself from getting hurt, you’ll need to learn how to use your head little more than your heart, at least in the beginning.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“What a treacherous thing to believe that a person is more than a person.”

— John Green, amazon.com

“Finding the right person to spend forever with shouldn’t be easy. When things come easily, the relationship ends up being temporary.”

— Catherine Bybee, amazon.com

“The number one way to attract love is to make yourself into a vessel that can receive it.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.”

— Brené Brown, amazon.com

“There is no intimacy without vulnerability.”

— Brené Brown, amazon.com

“Love will make you into the best and worst version of yourself, often in the same night.”

— Ryan O'Connell, thoughtcatalog.com

“You’ll always care about your first love. That doesn’t make you crazy, it just makes you human. When relationships end, it’s not so cut and dry. You carry everyone you’ve ever loved into every relationship thereafter.”

— Ryan O'Connell, thoughtcatalog.com

“You’ll treat someone terribly. Whether it be to a lover or your friend, there’ll be someone whose feelings you take for granted. We focus too much on whether or not someone is hurting us. The reality is that we might actually be the one who’s hurting someone.”

— Ryan O'Connell, Ryan O'Connell, thoughtcatalog.com

“Everyone wants to be loved. Everyone wants to rely on someone. For a lot of people, it’s their Achilles heel. Love is the reason why they made most of their mistakes.”

— Ryan O'Connell, thoughtcatalog.com

“You will never love someone quite the same way you do the first time. In most cases, this is a good thing. The first time is fucking insane.”

— Ryan O'Connell, thoughtcatalog.com

“Romantic love is mental illness. But it’s a pleasurable one. It’s a drug. It distorts reality, and that’s the point of it. It would be impossible to fall in love with someone that you really saw.”

— Fran Lebowitz, books.google.com

“Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.”

— Erica Jong, amazon.com

“If you’re looking for the word that means caring about someone beyond all rationality and wanting them to have everything they want no matter how much it destroys you, it’s love. And when you love someone you don’t stop, ever. Even when people roll their eyes, and call you crazy. Even then. Especial…”

— Carter Bays, Craig Thomas, Ted Mosby, Josh Radnor, imdb.com

“Happiness is only real when shared.”

— Chris McCandless, amazon.com

“When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself.”

— Deepak Chopra, amazon.com

“Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment.”

— Deepak Chopra, amazon.com

“When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--until we admit that whil…”

— Tom Robbins, amazon.com

“You can be totally perfect for one another, you can love each other like crazy, you can be wildly attracted to one another, you can even be soul mates, and you will still have to work at it.”

— Sabrina Alexis, amazon.com

“Sometimes the problem isn’t that we should treat others as we’d want to be treated, the problem is that we do, and we don’t realize that actually, we should treat others how they want to be treated.”

— Iain Thomas, amazon.com

“You can’t fool people into loving you.”

— Chuck Palahniuk, amazon.com

“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some compleme…”

— Andrew Boyd, amazon.com