“At every turn, women are taught that how someone reacts to them does more to establish their goodness and worth than anything they themselves might feel.”— Lili Loofbourow, theweek.comTagged: Gender Performativity, Gender Socialization, Prioritizing Male Desire, Prioritizing Female Pleasure, The Male Gaze
“One side effect of teaching one gender to outsource its pleasure to a third party (and endure a lot of discomfort in the process) is that they're going to be poor analysts of their own discomfort, which they have been persistently taught to ignore.”— Lili Loofbourow, theweek.comTagged: Gender Performativity, Gender Socialization, Prioritizing Male Desire, Prioritizing Female Pleasure, The Male Gaze
“This is also how women are taught to be good hosts. To subordinate their desires to those of others. To avoid confrontation.”— Lili Loofbourow, theweek.comTagged: Gender Performativity, Gender Socialization, Prioritizing Male Desire, Prioritizing Female Pleasure, The Male Gaze
“Women are supposed to perform comfort and pleasure they do not feel under conditions that make genuine comfort almost impossible.”— Lili Loofbourow, theweek.comTagged: Gender Performativity, Gender Socialization