“Trying to lure someone into talking to you by aggressively ignoring them all night.”— Maya Kachroo-Levine, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, Ignoring, Cold Shoulder, hard to get
“Being too self-deprecating. When you're talking to your crush, please don't put yourself down. Please.”— Jessica Booth, gurl.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, Self-deprecation, Self-hatred
“Pretending to like the same things he does. You might just nod along when he says he likes a particular band but there will be a point when he’ll want your opinion on one of their not-so-famous songs and you’ll just want to grab your bag and run.”— Ainee Nizami, idiva.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, Lies, pretending
“Be careful not to be mean-spirited. You don't want to offend him or embarrass him in front of other people. Teasing a guy about something he says or does is different than challenging his manhood.”— Devon Brown, yourtango.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, mean, teasing
“Overdoing it with your perfume. Be careful. When it comes to your scent, less is more.”— Harriet Thurley, cosmopolitan.co.ukTagged: Flirting Mistakes, perfume, scent
“Don’t start giggling every time he tells a joke, especially if you don't really find it funny, because it'll look unnatural.”— Jennifer Houston, womanitely.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, Jokes, Laughter
“Pretending to be clumsy. Not every dude wants to date a tipsy Zooey Deschanel.”— Laura Beck, cosmopolitan.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, clumsy, Zooey Deschanel
“Playing games. Playing hard to get is a silly game, but if a woman decides to do it and take it really seriously, it stops being fun. It has to be about give and take. If there’s no give and all take, it’s not fun. And if there’s one thing guys want when flirting, it’s to have fun.”— Jason Epstein, brobible.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, hard to get, Games
“Taking it too seriously. Flirting is fun. Not everyone who flirts with you will be interested in having a relationship with you and an essential part of engaging in the art is to not get too attached to everyone who flirts with you.”— Fran Creffield, eharmony.co.ukTagged: Flirting Mistakes, Fun, casual
“Assuming that just being really nice to someone will let him know you're into him. I like to call this move the 'I am flirting with you so heavily that you hardly even know I'm flirting' and my friends like to call it the 'What is wrong with you? He has no idea you like him. You are bad at this.'”— Lane Moore, cosmopolitan.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, Flirting, friendly, subtle
“Acting bitchy. Dudes don't dig bitchy women. So rather than complaining about your job, your roommate, your best friend's sister's boyfriend's girlfriend, be positive about your life. It's a good one!”— Aunt Becky, thestir.cafemom.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, Bitchy, complaints
“Sending mixed signals.”— NATALIE, baggagereclaim.co.ukTagged: Flirting Mistakes, mixed signals, confusing
“Teasing. There is a fine line between flirting and giving someone the come on: one thing no-one likes is a tease. It is unfair to play with someone’s emotions and give them the impression that they are on to a good thing if you have no intention of following through.”— Fran Creffield, eharmony.co.ukTagged: Flirting Mistakes, teasing, Leading On
“Being too clingy. If you just met him, do not get jealous or clingy if he starts talking to another female. He will think you are a psycho.”— Devon Brown, yourtango.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, Clingy, Desperate
“Crossing your arms. Instead, try keeping your posture loose and relaxed, or make sure you're always holding a drink to keep your body language open.”— Toria Sheffield, bustle.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, body language, Body
“Not complimenting them. Sometimes dudes need to be told their butt doesn't look big in those jeans. Toss a boy a compliment every once in a while.”— Laura Beck, cosmopolitan.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, compliments, Flattery
“We don't recommend acting stupid or like you're innocent to flirt with a boy either. We don't believe men prefer stupid girls, on the contrary, they enjoy the mystery and challenges, and that is always achieved next to intelligent girls.”— Mary Smith, relationships.onehowto.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, Intelligence, Brains
“Talking too much. Girls, you've got to give the guy you are flirting with some time to talk too! Otherwise, he might think that you aren't at all interested in what he has to say.”— Heather Jensen, love.allwomenstalk.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, talking, Listening
“Getting drunk to the point where you can't control your limbs.”— Lane Moore, cosmopolitan.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, Drunk, Alcohol
“Mentioning how hot you are. Confidence can be sexy, but pointing out your best attributes is redundant because they’ve already noticed and don’t need you to drive the point home.”— Maya Kachroo-Levine, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, bragging, beauty
“Trying to be someone you're not.”— Dr. Danielle Harel, Celeste Hirschman M.A, huffingtonpost.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, pretending, lying
“It’s important to offer details about your life, because that’s part of the dance, but make sure not to share too much, dear. Some things should be saved until you know someone a bit more, and some things should just be saved. For example: don’t let him in on your nighttime regimen, the gas milk giv…”— Nicole Akoukou Thompson, madamenoire.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, TMI, Myterious
“Filling the empty silences with blabber about nothing. I'm hugely prone to this one - I hate silence, so I chatter through it. Instead of doing that, simply let the silence be.”— Aunt Becky, thestir.cafemom.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, talking, Silence
“Flirting in a professional setting. This is a big mistake. This may include a company party or professional banquet. Flirting in these situations can be taken the wrong way, and may cause people to view you differently in your career, leading to negative consequences within your job.”— Devon Brown, yourtango.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, Work, Career
“Too much eye contact. Did you know that having too much eye contact can actually make you seem a little creepy? While coyly catching his eye or even just getting a glimpse of his eyes is a great way to get him to approach you, don't stare ladies.”— Heather Jensen, love.allwomenstalk.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, staring, Eye Contact
“The elbow slip. You're trying to master the classic 'dreamy gaze as you rest your chin in your hand', but then your elbow slips off the table. Why me?”— Harriet Thurley, cosmopolitan.co.ukTagged: Flirting Mistakes, embarrassing, awkward
“Waiting too long to text. Waiting days to text someone you like back because you don't want to seem uncool or overeager can actually just send the message that you're not interested. So if you like someone, don't be afraid to show it.”— Toria Sheffield, bustle.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, Texting, hard to get
“Stalking him on social media. Do it by all means but if he is talking about a childhood memory please don’t jump up with, ‘Oh yes I saw that picture on FB. You posted it in 2007, didn’t you?’”— Ainee Nizami, idiva.comTagged: Flirting Mistakes, stalking, Online
“Inciting jealousy. If someone has a partner with them, whether it is a long term partner or a casual date, do not flirt with them – they are taken even if only for that evening.”— Fran Creffield, eharmony.co.ukTagged: Flirting Mistakes, Jealousy, Cheating