We gravitate toward labels because it's always a relief to be seen, to find ourselves in descriptions.
Catalog
Geneen Roth
If you don't allow a feeling to begin, you also don't let it end.
Minds are useful when we need to conceptualize, plan, theorize. But when we depend on them to guide our inner lives, we're lost.
Grief hurts, sadness hurts, but it's not the feelings that destroy us. It's what we tell ourselves about the feelings.
You are not a mistake. You are not a problem to be solved.
Eating what I wanted was not allowed. Wanting what I wanted was not allowed. I needed to sacrifice, atone, make up for being myself. For being fat.
The answer to ‘I have no idea how I am going to get through this’ is: you allow yourself to sob, to heave, to feel as if your heart has a boulder crashing through it.”
In an April 2007 UCLA study of the effectiveness of dieting, researchers found that one of the best predictors of weight gain was having lost weight on a diet at some point during the years before the study started.
The great thing about being Sisyphus is that you have your work cut out for you.
When the suffering is fully allowed, it dissolves.
Food is good and comfort is good. Except that when you are not hungry and want comfort, food is only a temporary palliative; why not address the discomfort directly?
Most of us are so enthralled with the scary tigers in our minds—our stories about loneliness, rejection, grief, worthlessness—that we don’t realize they are in the past. They can’t hurt us anymore. We are protecting ourselves from losses that have already happened. It’s possible to come back. To see…