“We must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait. People seeking to control others almost always present the image of a nice person in the beginning.”Tagged: Nice People, Niceness, Social Strategies
“It is too easy to call the perpetrator of a violent act a monster. It's by examining our shared humanity that we can learn about ourselves, about them and about protecting ourselves.”Tagged: Life, Safety, Fear
“Those men who are the most violent are not at all carried away by fury. In fact, their heart rates actually drop and they become physiologically calmer as they become more violent.”Tagged: Emotional Predators, Psychopathy
“We must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait.”Tagged: Deception, manipulation
“The great enemy of perception, and thus of accurate predictions, is judgment.”Tagged: The Gift of Intuition, Inner Voice, Inner Guidance, Internal Dialogue, Gut Instinct
“When a person requires something unattainable, such as total submission to an unreasonable demand, it is time to stop negotiating, because it's clear the person cannot be satisfied.”Tagged: The Gift of Intuition, Inner Voice, Inner Guidance, Internal Dialogue, Gut Instinct
“Early on in these meetings, I say, 'No theory is too remote to explore, no person is beyond consideration, no gut feeling is too unsubstantiated.' In fact, as you are about to find out, every intuition is firmly substantiated.”Tagged: The Gift of Intuition, Inner Voice, Inner Guidance, Internal Dialogue, Gut Instinct
“We will follow my client's intuition until I have 'solved the mystery.' I'll be much praised for my skill, but most often, I just listen and give them permission to listen to themselves.”Tagged: The Gift of Intuition, Inner Voice, Inner Guidance, Internal Dialogue, Gut Instinct
“You have the gift of a brilliant internal guardian that stands ready to warn you of hazards and guide you through risky situations.”Tagged: Intuition, The Gift of Fear, Gavin de Becker Quotes, The Gift of Instinct, The Gift of Intuition
“Humor, particularly dark humor, is a common way to communicate true concern without the risk of feeling silly afterwards, and without overtly showing fear.”Tagged: Fear, Dark Humor
“The unsolicited promise is one of the most reliable signals because it is nearly always of questionable motive.”Tagged: Ulterior Motives, charm, Fake Promises
“When people are telling the truth, they don’t feel doubted, so they don’t feel the need for additional support in the form of details. When people lie, however, even if what they say sounds credible to you, it doesn’t sound credible to them, so they keep talking.”Tagged: Truth, Nice People, Telling The Truth
“Trust that what causes alarm probably should, because when it comes to danger, intuition is always right in at least two important ways. 1: It is always in response to something. 2: It always has your best interest at heart.”Tagged: Fear, Intuition
“When you worry, ask yourself 'What am I choosing not to see right now?' What important things are you missing because you chose worry over introspection, alertness, or wisdom?”Tagged: Stoicism