“It’s imperative that the guy who’s going to be penetrating me is trustworthy and gentle, and not an asshole. Assholes don’t mix with my asshole. I’m going to be getting in sexual positions where my body will look fleshy and revolting. It will seem like I’ve magically gained 20 pounds somewhere for n…”— Ryan O'Connell, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: Anal Sex, sex positions, Weight, Trust
“The joy of rimming. Boy, do I love a good rim job. Hopefully, you and your b/f do too. 'Cause like, if boy can't get a tongue in your butt, ain't no way his dick's going up there, you feel me?”— Diana, jezebel.comTagged: Anal Sex, rimming, rim job
“What I wished I had known before I did anal is that if something is a little sore, it doesn't mean you have to stop right away and look at your butthole with a magnifying glass to make sure nothing is wrong with it. You can just go slowly. The exception is if you feel a really sharp or unusual pain.…”— Margaret C., womenshealthmag.comTagged: Anal Sex, Pain, Patience
“First of all, it's easier to do when you've had a few drinks. I know that's not 'healthy' advice, but it's real advice. Your spirit and butthole are freed or something. It just doesn't feel as weird.”— Anna B., womenshealthmag.comTagged: Anal Sex, Alcohol, Advice
“Go sit on the pot and clear your bowels. You may also want to wash; a washcloth and mild soap are best for this, and employing your fingers to clear debris out of your butthole is also suggested. Somewhat related to this: Avoid foods that tend to cause gastric distress.”— Jolie Kerr, adequateman.deadspin.comTagged: Anal Sex, eating, foods, cleanliness
“When it comes to sex, there is considerable value in trying new things on your own before introducing them to partnered play, as we often allow our body’s natural responses to flow more freely and experience less pressure in the absence of a lover. If you want to experiment with anal play, try playi…”— Jessica O'Reilly, wdish.comTagged: Anal Sex, Experimentation, masturbation
“In addition to the stigma associated with seeking rump pleasure, there is the myth that anal sex is—nay—must be painful. While dipping one’s toes (or fingers, penis, or sex toy) into the anal waters can involve momentary discomfort, pain should not be a prerequisite for experiencing the joys of anal…”— Patrick Howell O'Neill, dailydot.comTagged: Anal Sex, Myths, Pain
“Vaginal sex makes babies and anal sex obviously doesn’t. If you don’t want to have babies right now, birth control is 99% effective with condoms or contraceptives, which honestly, can slightly decrease the amount of pleasure in sex. So the back door cures all of that since your man can come in there…”— Belle Aria, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: Anal Sex, vaginal sex, birth control, Pregnancy
“Though your anus is not a storage compartment for feces, they do pass through their on the way to the porcelain pool, so your diet can impact your degree of comfort and pleasure during anal play. If you don’t have enough fiber in your diet and you have to push hard when going to the bathroom, irrita…”— Jessica O'Reilly, wdish.comTagged: Anal Sex, cleanliness, diet, food
“Anal sex is rarely messy. Your bowels are generally empty until you're ready to go. That said, if your partner is completely uncomfortable with the possibility of poop, anal sex is maybe not for him. After all, it's not like he's fucking you in the ear and there's poop in it. It's a butt. It's where…”— Emily McCombs, xojane.comTagged: Anal Sex, Poop, cleanliness
“Using condoms will help to make cleanup easier and is absolutely recommended for partners who are not exclusive to ensure that your sexually health remains, well, healthy.”— Jolie Kerr, adequateman.deadspin.comTagged: Anal Sex, condoms, birth control
“Do not eat a lot before you will be having anal. You can if you want, but it might make you nauseous. I'm not saying starve yourself or stick to a liquid diet. Just don't eat a lot.”— Stef Woods, citygirlblogs.comTagged: Anal Sex, eating, food
“Your partner should always wear a condom. While you won’t get pregnant through anal sex, you are still at risk for sexually transmitted infections.”— Sherry Ross, gurl.comTagged: Anal Sex, condoms, STDs
“The tissue around the anus is delicate and can tear easily if not handled with care. So anal penetrators take note: short, smooth nails makes injury much less likely to come by. Take a minute and file down.”— Carrie Weisman, alternet.orgTagged: Anal Sex, nails, Pain
“Try to warm your finger up under your body before playing with her. Kiss her from head to toe, play with her nipples with your fingers or tongue, then her vagina and then her anus using a little lube on your fingers”— Nick Hawk, askmen.comTagged: Anal Sex, foreplay, lube
“For safety’s sake, suggest your girl avoid nuts, seeds, anything sharp. For comfort’s sake, nothing too, too spicy, either. For cleanliness’s sake, things that might encourage a bowel movement. Coffee, or really any hot beverage, should be avoided too.”— Carol Queen, askmen.comTagged: Anal Sex, eating, food, preparation
“Experiment with different positions. In seated position, you can try lowering yourself onto the cock and going at your own pace. If you’re in a doggie position, back up onto the cock. Feeling in control is another great way to alleviate anxiety and relax.”— Tess Danesi, blogher.comTagged: Anal Sex, Experimentation, sex positions
“As the saying goes, prime real estate is all about location, location, location. The same principle applies to anal sex. It's all about position, position, position. And don't forget the lube — lots and lots of slippery lube to make your first time more enjoyable.”— Bethany Ramos, sheknows.comTagged: Anal Sex, Location, sex positions
“Here’s something I don’t feel is often discussed when we talk about anal sex: It can actually be really intimate. A friend of mine who’s married swears that her and her husband’s increased regularity of anal sex has made their sex life far more exciting and satisfying, and has brought them closer to…”— Karley Sciortino, vogue.comTagged: Anal Sex, Anal Sex and Intimacy, Ways To Generate Intimacy
“Use lube. I don’t care if you get caught up in the moment. Before you stick your dick in her pussy, you get her wet, and before you stick it in her ass, you slather on lube. It’s not an option. It’s an order.”— Holly Riordan, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: Anal Sex, Sex, lube