“He told you straight up that he doesn't want a girlfriend, doesn't have time for a girlfriend, can't deal with a girlfriend... and just wants to have casual fun. It is up to you if you want to listen... but remember, most guys don't want to deliver news that women don't want to hear unless they real…”— Tristan Coopersmith, sheknows.comTagged: using you, casual, Fun
“A guy who is really into you will communicate regularly. A guy who is in it to sex it, calls, texts, emails and pops-over only when he is feeling frisky and knows that you will indulge his desires. If the sight of your man's name on your caller ID surprises you, chances are, this is a sex only situa…”— Tristan Coopersmith, sheknows.comTagged: using you, Sex, Texting, booty calls
“You’ve been ‘seeing’ him for a few months and he still has every dating app and you can see he’s active on them. This one should be obvious.”— Christy Goldstein, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: using you, Tinder, dating apps, apps
“He only notices how you look. While it’s great when someone appreciates your appearance and how terrific you look, you want to be loved and adored for your inner qualities, too. Men who are sincerely interested in a relationship with you will compliment you for qualities such as your intelligence, s…”— Larry Schwimmer, huffingtonpost.comTagged: using you, looks, compliments, beauty
“Maybe he takes you to dinner one night, and then he doesn’t respond to your Facebook messages for a week. Maybe you attend a party hand in hand, and then he suddenly goes MIA for the next three days. If this is the case, collegiettes, it’s more than likely you’re just convenient side entertainment o…”— Ashley McDonald, hercampus.comTagged: using you, MIA, Sex
“You never meet his friends. The less information you have about him, the easier it is for him to ghost you. If you don't know who he hangs out with, or where he lives, or what his last name is, he can disappear like a phantom into the night.”— Frank Kobola, cosmopolitan.comTagged: using you, Friends, Ghosting
“He warns you that he’s not relationship material. Some guys inform girls about their disinterest in a relationship early on with remarks like ‘I’m not ready for a serious relationship yet.’ It can be easy to think he’s just being honest and may eventually come around after he’s gotten to know you. B…”— Matt Schneiderman, match.comTagged: using you, serious relationship, Honesty
“He’s jealous of you with other guys, but also seems to avoid giving you a clear answer on exclusivity. Does he seem to play up, act jealous, or just doesn’t like the prospect of you spending time around other guys, yet has never been 100% clear on his own situation and standing? It’s because he does…”— Mark Rosenfeld, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: using you, other men, Jealous
“How many sexts do you have from him on your phone? Or how many dick pics? (Men, stop sending those if we haven’t asked for them!) It’s a tell tale sign that he’s only interested in your body — not your mind.”— Christy Goldstein, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: using you, dick pics, sexting, Texting
“He compares you to other women. When you turn down anal, he’ll tell you that his ex always agreed to it. When you wear flannel to bed, he’ll tell you that his female friends always go to bed in lingerie.”— Holly Riordan, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: using you, comparison, other women, beauty
“He may have bragged about how much money he makes and how much he spends, but when it comes time to pay, he always has an excuse for not taking the bill. He shouldn’t necessarily foot the bill for all your dates; the whole ‘the man should pay’ notion isn’t really fair. It’s fine to trade off paying…”— Deepika Singhania, newlovetimes.comTagged: using you, Money, checks, finances
“They rarely talk to you when fully clothed. If you run into them at school or around town, it’s like you don’t even exist. Yet just a few nights ago you were naked together.”— Meredith Hirt, gurl.comTagged: using you, Naked, Communication
“He gets angry if you don’t want to have sex. When a man loves your company and enjoys being with you - he just wants to be near you. You can invite him over to play a board game or to watch a movie.”— Larry Schwimmer, huffingtonpost.comTagged: using you, angry, Sex
“He goes to his friend’s wedding… without you. He goes to his Grandma’s birthday party… without you. He goes to work functions… without you. If you are new in this relationship, it might be excusable, but after a few months there is no excuse worthy anymore. He’s using you for something. If he was in…”— Christy Rasmussen, herinterest.comTagged: using you, invitations, Alone
“When a man doesn’t want to experience the daily tasks of life with you like going grocery shopping or going to the doctor, he’s probably just using you.”— Shannon Yrizarry, herinterest.comTagged: using you, mundane, grocery shopping
“He's never once called you his girlfriend though it's been months since you met and you've been seeing each other on and off. You ask him why; he avoids the question. He's so good at avoiding the question, in fact, that you've given up asking.”— Lorna Poole, yourtango.comTagged: using you, Girlfriend, relationship status
“Dates are pizza at your place. Men who are interested in courting you and getting to know you - want to be out in public, doing things with you, whether it’s going to a gallery opening or a chic new restaurant for a romantic dinner. Men who are only interested in sex don’t want to invest time or mon…”— Larry Schwimmer, huffingtonpost.comTagged: using you, dates, Money, Time, Sex
“When you’re in public and he’s giving women elevator eyes and making comments about their looks, you can be sure his heart is not with you. He’s just out for a good time.”— Shannon Yrizarry, herinterest.comTagged: using you, Flirting, staring
“If you’re a girl with a lot of money in the purse, you always need to be cautious about the kind of guys you date. Almost always, more than half the guys you date would be after your money than anything else.”— Gerry Sanders, lovepanky.comTagged: using you, Money, finances
“As much as you’d like to, you know that at the end of the day, he’s not going to be there for you. Sure, he might be a nice guy and you might really like spending time with him. However, he’s not really in this to take care of you or be the guy that you can always depend on.”— Ryder Ramsey, thetalko.comTagged: using you, dependable, disappointing