“He's a little too good at making sure you don't forget anything. Don't forget your jacket. Oh, and here's your bra. And your lipstick. And your bobby pin.”— Clint Carter, womenshealthmag.comTagged: using you, forget, personal items
“There is zero cuddling happening. Sex can be a very intimate act. If your partner doesn’t show any physical affection outside of the act of sex itself, the sex is probably all they’re interested in.”— Meredith Hirt, gurl.comTagged: using you, cuddling, affection, Sex
“He gets frustrated when you invite him over to watch a movie and actually just want to watch a movie.”— Frank Kobola, cosmopolitan.comTagged: using you, Sex, dates
“He’s caught off guard if he runs into you unexpectedly. A guy who’s using you only wants to see you on his terms, when it suits him, so his game will be thrown out by running into you unexpectedly.”— Mark Rosenfeld, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: using you, off guard, Timing
“If all he wants is sex, he’ll promise you things you haven’t even thought of yet. Men know that by talking about love, fabulous exotic vacations, babies, houses with the white picket fences, women will give up the goods.”— Sherry Argov, match.comTagged: using you, promises, Lies
“If your guy seems to always be MIA during the weekends, this is a clear sign that he is reserving weekends for someone else on his literal to-do list, or keeping his options open to meet other women.”— Tristan Coopersmith, sheknows.comTagged: using you, Weekends, MIA
“He’s pushy about getting physical. Some guys will say just about anything to get a woman to have sex with him.”— Matt Schneiderman, match.comTagged: using you, Sex, pressure, peer pressure
“Let’s get the obvious out of the way: if he’s hot there’s a 99% chance he’s a player straight out.”— Lara Bright, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: using you, Hot, Attractive, player
“Staying in from time to time is fine, but when it’s every single night and all you do is have sex, he’s using you for just that. Don’t fall for the lack of money excuse. There are lots of free date ideas.”— Christy Rasmussen, herinterest.comTagged: using you, Sex, Money, dates
“He only likes to have sex in complete darkness. It could mean that he has body issues, but it could also mean he sees you as a body and only a body.”— Holly Riordan, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: using you, Darkness, Body, Sex
“If he’s totally weird about calling you his girlfriend, even after months of nonstop dates, chances are that he’s seeing other people, too — and doesn’t want to stop seeing them. Drop him for a man who will happily call you his girlfriend (they’re out there, we swear!)”— Ashley McDonald, hercampus.comTagged: using you, Girlfriend, label
“From the first time you met him and spent time alone together, you’ve slept together. You’ve never been with him and not been intimate.”— Ryder Ramsey, thetalko.comTagged: using you, Sex, Intimacy, Alone
“If he makes up excuses not to meet your family and won’t tell his coworkers, friends or family about you, you can be sure he’s just using you.”— Shannon Yrizarry, herinterest.comTagged: using you, excuses, Family, Friends
“He shows no interest in getting to know you or your interests. All conversations quickly veer towards what he wants to do with you (or to you) when he gets you in bed.”— Lorna Poole, yourtango.comTagged: using you, sexting, dirty talk
“He makes it really hard for you to sleep over. He never straight-up says you have to leave (That wouldn't get him a next hookup!) but he always has a "thing" really early the next morning.”— Frank Kobola, cosmopolitan.comTagged: using you, Sex, Hookup
“He regularly/only drunk texts you.”— Mark Rosenfeld, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: using you, Sex, Drunk, Alcohol
“He’s told you that you’re ‘hot’ but never that you’re ‘beautiful.'”— Deepika Singhania, newlovetimes.comTagged: using you, Hot, Beautiful, compliments, beauty
“He knows everything about you, but your knowledge of him is limited. Relationships are for learning about each other and seeing if you two are compatible. If he tells you very little about himself, he's either hiding something or he just doesn't want you to know him.”— Christy Goldstein, yourtango.comTagged: using you, Relationships, Communication
“You go down on him all the time, but you can’t even remember the last time that he went down on you.”— Holly Riordan, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: using you, Oral Sex, Sex, give and take
“He goes for sex straight away. If he invites you back to his apartment to ‘watch a film’ on the first meeting/ date, that’s usually all he’s after.”— Lara Bright, thoughtcatalog.comTagged: using you, Sex, first date
“He tells you everything you want to hear, but doesn't show you the things he says. Actions speak louder than words, so if he's just filling you up with charming and charismatic words, without proving what he says is true, it's time to move on.”— Christy Goldstein, yourtango.comTagged: using you, actions, Words, Lies
“He always cancels plans with you. You're looking forward to hanging out together, but as soon as you are supposed to see him, he sends you a text saying he has to cancel.”— Christy Goldstein, yourtango.comTagged: using you, plans, excuses, Texting
“You’re his rebound. Are you dating a guy who’s just broken up with his girl? Or does your boyfriend spend a lot of time talking about his ex? If you’re dating a guy who’s still obsessed with his past, there’s a good chance that he’s still not over his ex and is using your intimacy only to stitch his…”— Gerry Sanders, lovepanky.comTagged: using you, rebound, Heartbroken, Exes
“They never talk about the future. You don’t have to plan your wedding and your house and kids, but bringing up plans to hang out in the future is a good sign—and not doing it is kind of a bad one. They should be making more room for you in their schedule with more preparation than just a late night…”— Meredith Hirt, gurl.comTagged: using you, Future, Communication
“When you go out, he doesn’t really care if other guys look at you. In fact, he might actually like it. If you flirt with other guys or even tell him that you’re dating other people, it doesn’t phase him. He’s not interested in claiming you as his own.”— Ryder Ramsey, thetalko.comTagged: using you, Jealousy, other men
“He never asks about your friends. Or your family. Or your job. If a guy's just looking for a fuck buddy, he'll avoid all the messy stuff.”— Clint Carter, womenshealthmag.comTagged: using you, Communication, personal life
“You say you’re dating him, but you never really go out on dates together or do other things that couples usually do. He always just wants to ‘hang out’ with you when alcohol is involved, like at a party or a bar. In fact, that’s the only time he shows up for dates. If you call him to do anything els…”— Deepika Singhania, newlovetimes.comTagged: using you, Alcohol, parties, bars
“You text and call and email that you want to spend the day together, but he never responds. Then, like magic, late in the evening he finally is available to spend time with you, but only for sex. If you can’t reach him during the day, you are basically a booty call even if you do not intend to be on…”— Christy Rasmussen, herinterest.comTagged: using you, Texting, booty call, unavailable
“He dodges the 'where is this relationship going?' conversation.”— Lorna Poole, yourtango.comTagged: using you, Relationship, Sex, the talk
“He skimps on foreplay. You've gone down on this guy how many times? And he never repays the favor? Well—it sounds like he's getting screwed, and you're getting screwed over.”— Clint Carter, womenshealthmag.comTagged: using you, foreplay, blowjobs