“Of course, when I’m dating someone, I want them to value me for my ideas and accomplishments and humor or whatever. But when I’m fucking someone, I want them to value my lack of a gag reflex.”Tagged: Sex, How to be good at sex, feminism, Political Correctness
“I have this friend—she’s a polyamorous molecular biologist who’s into extreme BDSM (obviously). Recently, she told me that she regularly masturbates to the idea of men having sex with animals. Despite being generally prepared to hear something extreme come out of her mouth, I was still pretty…”Tagged: Sex, How to be good at sex
“I once had a guy tell me that he doesn’t go down on women because he’s a germaphobe. Are you kidding me? How am I supposed to relax and feel good about myself after you basically called my vagina dirty? It’s so much more of a turn-on to be with someone who’s kind of gross—someone who wants to smell…”Tagged: Sex, How to be good at sex
“I don’t think we need to file all of our actions under ‘feminist’ or ‘not feminist’—especially since consensual sex kind of exists in a political vacuum: It’s pretty much the one place that we can just do things and move on, no angry think-piece needed.”Tagged: Sex, How to be good at sex, feminism, Political Correctness, Quote of the Moment
“Just because I had a bad sexual experience doesn’t mean that I’m broken. It means that I know to avoid that thing going forward.”Tagged: Sex, Overcoming Bad Sex, Improving Your Sex Life, Quote of the Moment, Culture
“Words and phrases like chakra, energy, and ‘I’m sorry I’m late, but Mercury is in retrograde’ are all major boner killers for me. But unfortunately, even in notoriously skeptical New York, it’s increasingly difficult to find someone who doesn’t believe that some magical cosmic force is dictating…”Tagged: Sex, Culture, New Age, humor, Single
“I’ve faked 2,000 orgasms in my life—give or take a few. I’m not joking. I’ve done the math: Two thousand divided by 18 years of fucking equals just over a hundred forgeries per year. Yup, sounds about right.”Tagged: orgasms, Faking it, Sex
“When our dark imaginations overpower our curiosity, sex can easily become a proxy for myriad insecurities—that we’re not skinny enough, smart enough, or that our podcast is failing.”Tagged: Sex, libido, sexuality