50 BDSM Tips For Bad Girls That Like It Rough

“Ask him to tie your wrists above your head and do you missionary style (or he can just hold your hands up there with his hands). Or tie something soft over your eyes and then go down on you. Or pull your hair back during doggy style. Or spank you as foreplay. All very hot options.”

— Lane Moore, cosmopolitan.com

“Biting is a great entry-level way to play.”

— Emma McGowan, bustle.com

“Warm wax play. This involves dripping warm wax onto a partner's bare flesh (not the genitals) and watching the sudden flicker of pain fade into lingering pleasure. Use a specialty candle designed for this, as regular candles will burn the skin.”

— Debra Macleod, huffingtonpost.com

“Belts make great spanking implements.”

— Sean Jameson, badgirlsbible.com

“Have your partner carry out your wishes. It could be a foot massage, brushing your hair, licking something sweet off of your favorite body parts, or providing with oral pleasure. Make sure to give them plenty of instructions and be firm.”

— Kat Richter, livluv.com

“Use a toy that offers a tiny electrical jolt on your partner.”

— Dirty Talk 101, dirtytalk101.com

“Use degrading nicknames (ex, ‘my dirty little slut.’) (I put degrading in quotes because when done in consensual play these names feel anything but degrading.)”

— Ali, autostraddle.com

“Use the necktie to tie his hands to the headboard of your bed so he can look, but not touch. Great way to start a sexy strip-tease.”

— Becky, thestir.cafemom.com

“Host an ‘interrogation’ – tie your partner up and ‘torture’ them with pleasures as they answer naughty questions.”

— Dirty Talk 101, dirtytalk101.com

“Before you engage in any kind of bondage or BDSM play, always, always agree on a safe word. A safeword makes it possible for a submissive to say stop or no more when it all becomes too much for her to handle. When picking a safe word, try not to veer towards anything that you scream out too often wh…”

— Elite Daily, elitedaily.com

“Some men love it when you allow them to cum on your boobs, face, and any other body part.”

— Dear Vagina, dearvagina.com

“Run an ice cube over your restrained, blind-folded partner's spanked bottom for a surprising yet soothing temperature change. Slide the cube over his or her nipples and genitals and follow the icy trail with hot exhalations and licks of your tongue.”

— Debra Macleod, huffingtonpost.com

“If you’re just starting out, try a stretchy cock ring on for size. After he’s comfortable wearing that, you can carefully measure for a stone, glass or metal cock ring.”

— Adriana, badgirlsbible.com

“Consider this the ultimate test of self-control: Lie completely still on the bed—as long as you're in a comfortable position—and let your partner have at you. They should be free to control your body and movements—you're basically the human version of an inflatable sex doll. As difficult as it might…”

— Kenny Thapoung, womenshealthmag.com

“Break out the full length mirror, put it by your bed, and get busy.”

— Olivia Cruz, desiredmag.com

“Don’t do anything too complicated to start with. You’re trying to have fun not earn a merit badge for your Shibari knot work. Tease your lover’s senses with a blindfold and an ice cube or a feather. Try tying your partner’s hands together with paper streamers or something else that they can easily e…”

— Adam, adameve.com

“Explore role-playing where bondage has a central part of the story.”

— Your Tango, yourtango.com

“Eat beforehand but don't stuff yourself. You want to feel delirious from bliss, not hunger. But when that rope coils around your waist, you also don't want it to be squishing a stomach full of meatball hero.”

— Rope Bottoming, ropebottoming.com

“Although it's often more tempting to play sex games when you're feeling a bit tipsy, it's best not to try bondage when you're under the influence of drink or drugs, as you might misjudge how tightly to tie the knots or, as the restrained person, be unable to establish your comfort levels in an accur…”

— Emily Dubberley, huffingtonpost.co.uk

“Hoods are an even more extreme form of head bondage.”

— Sean Jameson, badgirlsbible.com

“Grab her wrists and pin them over her head. It’s even better if you can hold down both of her wrists with only one of your hands. It’ll remind her of how big and strong you are.”

— Holly Riordan, thoughtcatalog.com

“Never leave someone tied up alone.”

— Carolyn Yates, autostraddle.com

“Pull his hair and spank his ass.”

— Dear Vagina, dearvagina.com

“Try tying your partner up and making them squirm with ice cubes, a feather, warming lotion, or another fun torture device.”

— Kat Richter, livluv.com

“If you're at his place, a tie makes a real nice blindfold or wrist binder.”

— Lane Moore, cosmopolitan.com

“Light plenty of candles and lie your partner down on his or her back before undressing them from the waist up. Peel their top off but don't remove it all the way. Instead, wind the fabric around their wrists and apply a gentle pressure to let them know you're in control.”

— Kat Richter, livluv.com

“Grab a few scarves or old T-shirts and tie your partner's hands (or have them tie yours) to the bed or a chair. You want the knots to be tight enough to restrict your movements but easy to break out of if you need to, says Fuller. Next, cover the eyes so that the person being bound can't see what's…”

— Kenny Thapoung, womenshealthmag.com

“Check circulation often by looking for areas of skin that might be turning blue or white. Check in with your activity partner often, and make sure they notify you if they start to feel pins and needles or numbness.”

— Carolyn Yates, autostraddle.com

“Some guys secretly love dressing up in frilly underpants, stockings, garter belters and other woman’s clothing. And others hate it. Either way, you can leverage the ‘sissification’ of your submissive to your advantage by rewarding him with something lacy or punishing him with it!”

— Adriana, badgirlsbible.com

“Knots in silk scarves can be hard to untie, and you don't want to ruin a good sexual encounter by having to cut your way out of your favorite scarves. The best option for light bondage is satin bondage ties designed specifically for erotic bondage.”

— Your Tango, yourtango.com