50 Pieces Of Anal Sex Advice That'll Encourage You To Experiment In Bed Tonight

“You don't start out with the penis. Work your way up, stimulating the outside with a finger or tongue and then slowly use your finger to enter the anus. And then once she get used to that, you can go on to bigger and better things.”

— Jill Provost, yourtango.com

“Anal sex will NOT irreparably loosen you up. Think of it this way: your anus is a muscle. The more you exercise said muscle, the stronger it becomes—like pumping iron for your sphincter. While you may find it easier to allow various objects the more comfortable you get with anal play, you’ll find it…”

— Cynthia McKelvey, dailydot.com

“When it's time to finish, don't assume it's okay to do inside of your partner. That's probably true of all sexual acts (R-E-S-P-E-C-T), but it's especially important with backdoor play, because semen can have a laxative effect, which can lead to accidents.”

— Jolie Kerr, adequateman.deadspin.com

“When he goes in, it’s going to feel strange at first. Actually, anal sex always feel strange. It’s hard to explain but the whole thing just feels wrong. I don’t mean that in a moralistic or bad way. I mean, it just literally feels unnatural because you’re using an exit as an entrance. Funnily enough…”

— Ryan O'Connell, thoughtcatalog.com

“Use a dildo or vibrator on yourself while he’s having anal sex with you. Although some women can orgasm from anal alone, most times, they need other forms of stimulation to climax. Using a dildo or a vibrator on yourself while having anal sex is a great way to ensure you and your man are both having…”

— Sean Jameson, elitedaily.com

“Experimenting in bed is fun and enjoyable for most couples. As long as you are comfortable and consenting to sexually nuances than I say have a great time! Communication and honesty is key.”

— Sherry Ross, gurl.com

“Your breathing patterns are essential to enjoying anal sex and ensuring that it is pleasurable and entirely pain-free. Though you can easily control your outer sphincter muscle with your central nervous system (the same system that allows you to contract and the other muscles in your body at will),…”

— Jessica O'Reilly, wdish.com

“A lot of the reasons I love it so much are psychological. It's dirty, it's taboo, Oh yeah, you're fucking me in the ass baby, that kind of thing. But to be honest, I kind of feel the same way about vaginal sex. The actual physical sensation ain't all that. If I was having sex purely for sensation, I…”

— Emily McCombs, xojane.com

“Be horny. It helps to be really excited, so get ready with tons of foreplay. Whether you go down on each other, engage in some sensual massage or touching, it’s all good as long as it turns you on. Also, try stimulating the area surrounding the anus before diving in with fingers, toys or penises. Th…”

— Tess Danesi, blogher.com

“Don’t go straight from thrusting into her ass to thrusting into her pussy. That can spread a shit-ton of germs. If she ends up with an infection, she’s never going to let you near her ass again.”

— Holly Riordan, thoughtcatalog.com

“As the taboo around anal sex – and particularly, ladies loving anal sex in a genuine, not ‘pretending to love it to make my boyfriend happy’ kind of way – dies a long-overdue death, we’re learning more about how many people are doing it, how they’re doing it, and why they love it, on a more anatomic…”

— Jessica Blankenship, thoughtcatalog.com

“This anal sex tip has you pre-stretching your anus by loosening it up with a butt plug. You can put in the butt plug yourself, or he can put it in for you. Butt plugs both help you feel the pleasures of anal sex, and help relax your muscles before the act. You need to use lube with butt plugs just a…”

— Sean Jameson, elitedaily.com

“Every woman has a little wild streak in them and a desire to be a bad girl. Who wants to always be the goody two shoes? There’s something alluring and mysterious about the dark side, dangerous and edgy. If I was any good at acting, I’d want to play your basic bad bitch because it just so much more f…”

— Belle Aria, thoughtcatalog.com

“Getting the tip in hurts the most, because the head of the penis is the widest part. Once you're past that and up to the shaft, it'll feel a little better. Remember how much regular sex hurt at first, for some of us?”

— Anna Breslaw, cosmopolitan.com

“You can lie flat on your stomach, get in doggy-style, or do missionary — and that is the order of what will hurt the least to the most. At least, in my (minimal) experience.”

— Anna Breslaw, cosmopolitan.com

“Your anus has thousands of sensitive nerve endings in and around it that can give you pleasure. Most of these nerve endings are concentrated around the opening, but the outer part of the rectum also has them. With the inner part of the rectum, what feels good during sex is mostly the pressure and fu…”

— Emma Kaywin, bustle.com

“You will not be covered in shit after sticking a tiny finger up someone’s bum. In fact, your anus isn’t even where poop is stored—it’s actually stored in your colon at the end of your large intestine.”

— Cynthia McKelvey, dailydot.com

“One of the first misconceptions about anal sex is that it’s unclean because it involves butts. In actuality, your anus has natural bacteria that helps fight infection, and if you clean your body regularly, your butt is as clean as the rest of you. So you don’t need to wash yourself right before you…”

— Emma Kaywin, bustle.com

“The most important thing is to get really turned on and comfortable. Your anus is surrounded by a ring of muscle called the anal sphincter, which is designed to keep in feces. Your sphincter needs to be relaxed to allow something to pass through it. So do whatever works for you to get yourself feeli…”

— Emma Kaywin, bustle.com

“For those just starting out, I think getting on all fours might be a little too intense, because she doesn't have as much control. Lying on your side in the spooning position won't allow penetration that's as deep. It's also a more relaxing position. When you become more comfortable, the doggie is t…”

— Jill Provost, yourtango.com

“Although you don’t need to clean inside your anus, too, this anal sex tip is something you might want to do. You can use an enema with warm (not hot) water to clean inside. You would keep filling your rectum with water and then passing it into the toilet until the water comes out clean.”

— Sean Jameson, elitedaily.com

“Unlike other body parts that become ooey-gooey all on their own, the anus is not a self-lubricating organ. But due to the wonders of modern science, this need not be a problem. Lube—whether water, silicone, or flaxseed based—solves that problem for us. And be sure to go slow, communicate throughout,…”

— Patrick Howell O'Neill, dailydot.com

“A partner who is pushy, not tuned in to your pleasure, or clumsy is probably not the right one to explore anal with, unless they devote themselves to learning more about being a good lover.”

— Carol Queen, alternet.org

“Put a vibrator on your clitoris if you’re a girl. If you’re a guy, you should have your lover stimulating your penis, your balls, or whatever feels good... Work the parts of your body that are tried and true; that you know feel good. Those areas are very often neglected.”

— Susan Block, alternet.org

“Unlike the vagina, the rectum is not a straight tube, but has a subtle curve to it. These curves are part of the reason that anal penetration should be slow and gentle, especially at first. Each person's rectum and its curves are unique, and it is best to feel your way inside the rectum slowly, foll…”

— Tristan Taormino, alternet.org

“The minimum preparation for enjoying external anal play is a regular bowel movement followed by complete external cleansing. Washing the external anal area with warm soap and water is often enough to allow you to feel at ease.”

— Charlotte Mia Rose, pleasuremechanics.com

“Push. While this may seem counter-intuitive, bearing down relaxes your muscles. Try it. When you press in or squeeze, your muscles tighten, when you bear down muscles ease. If you’re almost but not quite there, before giving up, try to push against the object entering your bottom. Pushing is another…”

— Tess Danesi, blogher.com

“The best way to start anal is when you’re on your stomach and he’s kind of on top of you, like laying on top of you and sliding it in. Probably the most relaxed position to be in. It helps if he kisses your neck, ears, caresses your head. It helps it feel good as soon as the initial ‘ouch’ is over.”

— Madison Moore, thoughtcatalog.com

“Men love to be trusted. They love to hear us say yes to their desires and lay our pleasure in their hands. It feeds into their primal instinct to protect and naturally dominate. Women want to give, so handing over the ‘ I trust you with my a-card’ is something rare and novel. Trust is a gift to both…”

— Belle Aria, thoughtcatalog.com

“If you’re not a pot smoker, skip this one. But sexual adventurers who fancy the occasional toke know how intensely smoking can enhance the experience. It’s also true that marijuana possesses some amazing pain-reducing powers, and this can come in handy when maneuvering large objects into tiny spaces…”

— Carrie Weisman, alternet.org