41 Women Reveal Secret Sex Tips That They Wish All Men Knew

“I am positive I am not the only one who is like this, but I will have tons of orgasms while you are sexing me up...if you just give me one good kick start. I might anyway, but it is basically guaranteed I will have tons if you, y'know, get me off first with some lovely oral or a even just quick hand…”

— scazrelet, reddit.com

“Don't always be so gentle. Bite me, spank me, etc. etc.”

— Kneeahh, reddit.com

“If we're moaning, you're doing something right. if not, try something new! Because shit DONE SUCKS!”

— ohlucency, reddit.com

“Sex is not meant to hurt. If it hurts, stop!…It is not something she has to put up with for being a woman - there are many causes of sexual pain, and many have simple cures.”

— VaginalKnives, reddit.com

“GO. SLOW. I will let you know how fast I want it to go. Even if you are so horny you can't help it...contain it! The last thing a girl wants to feel is a horny, overzealous, aggressive dude slobbering all over her while he rushes to stick it in.”

— AshleyMegan00, reddit.com

“When fingering a girl find her clit and lightly touch it. Only one of the three guys I've been with actually knew how to do this and it elevated fingering in my book from meh worthy to fucking fantastic.”

— Anonymous, reddit.com

“There's something called the orgasmic platform near the outer part of the vagina. When a woman is sufficiently aroused, it swells and gets kinda spongy. A woman cannot orgasm without the swelling. Learn to recognize the swelling. Actually…just read up on everything you can find about female sexual a…”

— Paxalon, reddit.com

“Don't ignore the opening of my vag. Yes, the clitoris and G-spot are good places to go, but there's a reason I find penetration sexy.”

— cpsami, reddit.com

“Thumb to the asshole while doggie style.”

— hawaiianrule, reddit.com

“My ex liked it both ways. It was either I give her a lot of foreplay (slow movements with the tips of my fingers around her body, or my tongue moving around her very slowly, moving all around lightly), then give her oral, then get into the actual sex, she loved it a whole lot. It got her into it big…”

— JathTyki, reddit.com

“First and foremost: I'm not actually made of China, regardless of this bone China skin tone. While tenderness has its moments, so does raw, animal fucking. I'm not going to shatter, I promise you. There are a lot of factors you probably wouldn't even think of that affect a woman's natural lubricatio…”

— sweetmercy, reddit.com

“Oral sex is amazing, but I usually have to give out the same pointers. 1: It's not a sandwich; think of it more like an ice cream. 2: It is much easier for me to cum if I am confident that he is not bored and is prepared to go on as long as necessary. Paranoia about elusive orgasms only makes them m…”

— kittybot, reddit.com

“1 Some females don't need to achieve orgasm to have a satisfying sexual experience. Sometimes getting me worked up is harder than other times. If it's not happening for me I will gladly make it worth YOUR while, just don't beat yourself up if I don't cum once in a while. Being naked and sweaty and p…”

— allycatraz, reddit.com

“Stop being a pussy and learn how to bite my nipples already….Don't chew on them, don't lightly scrape your teeth over them...just bite them.”

— RockmSockm, reddit.com

“When it comes to sex with me, don't listen to these other girls, talk to me! It's fine to get little tips to try with me or ask for a buddy's…advice, but I want in on it. For everything I like, I've heard another woman say she doesn't like it and vice verse. Also, I need feedback. If you're not a ta…”

— sprcnt, reddit.com

“~Sex is mental before physical—turning us into your mothers during non-sexual moments really shuts off the sexual energy ability in the bedroom later on. ~No foreplay? No 'good' sex. Prime, prime, prime rule. ~Communicate. Clearly and often. Good talking = good sexing. ~Create a safe environment for…”

— Pannanana, reddit.com

“If we aren't getting off after ten minutes of you thrusting away at us, we probably aren't going to be getting off via intercourse (so many of us can't). Either switch to oral or fucking YOU finish up. Quit trying to 'get me there.' I ain't gettin' there with whatever moves you are pulling on me. So…”

— Anonymous, reddit.com

“FOREPLAY. My husband is the best at this. By the time he's done I'm pulling him on top of me and begging for sex. This is particularly impressive since he hates oral, so he accomplishes this all with his hands. Also setting a mood is quintessential. When things feel romantic, we feel romantic. For w…”

— katkinsk, reddit.com

“Look me in the eyes whenever we are in a position that allows it.”

— Higgy24, reddit.com

“It's a clitoris, not a door knocker. Don't start smacking it around like you've seen your favorite porn star doing. Chances are she has built up a resistance to sensitivity that the common gal has not.”

— L_Mousse, reddit.com

“Be able to laugh, or at least don't get insecure when I do. Don't give up when a position is awkward; talk it through. Transition to something else if it's really failing, but don't give up because of brief fumbling. How would you feel if I completely avoided giving you oral sex or briefly tossed it…”

— emilybr, reddit.com

“Spankage! Those of us who like it, prefer you do it often. Obviously communication is key, but if you are with a lady who wants to be spanked. Dear god....spank her!!! Also...tell me before you cum. Most of the time...I will cum with you. It's sexy. I don't care if it only lasted .003 seconds. We wi…”

— Anonymous, reddit.com

“• When it comes to oral, my clitoris is where 85% of my partner's attention should be focused. The rest can be pleasurable but they have to really know what they're doing, or it's just 'pleasant.' (I wish I could give specifics for 'know what they're doing'—but alas, this is not my area of expertise…”

— justheretosaythis, reddit.com

“I understand the nature of the penis. I have been with enough guys that I am not weighing my self-esteem on every dip and bend that happens over the sexual experience. I've had partners go soft early, middle and late game. I get that the erection that starts the party might not be the same one you f…”

— Exis007, reddit.com

“Subtle touches. Small grabs.”

— ToastieCrumbs, reddit.com

“I love rough sex. Don't worry, I won't break.”

— GentleLady, reddit.com

“I HATE IT when boys finger by going in and out fast. If I wanted you to fuck me, I'd ask you to use your dick. INSTEAD swirl your finger in a circular motion—you hit places your dick never can, and my god, the results are phenomenal.”

— Smokie112, reddit.com

“My clit is NOT located on my pubic bone.”

— ellegirl82091, reddit.com

“Do not start out with a ton of pressure on my clit. Trust me, you'll get there. Just start out gentle. Do not slobber on my face while you are kissing me. Experiment. Even if you're not confident, fake it and play around. Just the simple act of getting enjoyment from my naked body turns me on. And I…”

— urfouy, reddit.com

“• Kissing plays a very important part to us. Lack of kissing can possibly be a turn off. • Foreplay, it's important. We love to be touched!! Tease us, kiss us, rub our nipples, gently touch our breasts. The buildup is quite amazing! Shoving your cock instantly inside of us without the foreplay can b…”

— artificialsweetner, reddit.com