It’s so hot to imagine you tying me up.
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Vanessa Marin
I want you to tease me until I can’t take it any longer.
If you’ve experienced sexual abuse or trauma of any kind, you may find it hard to reach orgasm during sex. Even if you rationally understand that your boyfriend would never hurt you, your body may not be fully able to relax when you’re being intimate. One technique to help yourself feel more at ease…
Do you have a specific way that you masturbate? Some women masturbate the exact same way every time, and actually wind up creating mental blockages to reaching orgasm with a partner (this happens a lot for men too, by the way). You may find yourself distracted because you’re critiquing his speed or…
As you’re having sex, look at what your partner is doing to you, and narrate all of the action to yourself. For example, ‘he’s using his tongue to trace circles around my clitoris. Now he’s flicking my clitoris with the tip of his tongue.’ This suggestion might sound kind of silly, but it can be…
With his taint (more properly known as the perineum). This is the entire zone between his anus and his balls (if it ain't the balls and it ain't the anus, it's the taint). It’s not an area that typically gets a ton of attention, but there are a number of nerve endings there. Plus, the sensation…
Start with the old hand-in-the-back-pocket move when you guys are hanging out at home, and give him a few squeezes.
Perhaps he would feel more comfortable if he knew that you promised not to tell anyone about it (not even your bff), or if the two of you explored in the shower (for easy, unembarrassing clean-up).
I suggest using your vibrator in conjunction with lube, which will help your toy glide gently across your clitoris instead of tugging at it. If you have a silicone toy, you want to avoid silicone lubes, which can break down your new purchase.
In purchasing your first vibrator, my first recommendation is that you make an investment. You may be tempted to buy something cheap if you’ve never used a sex toy before, but I really think you’re better served saving up your pennies to buy a high-quality product. More money typically buys more…
If you’ve never had an orgasm before, you may find it easier to have your first one with a vibrator. If you’re regularly able to orgasm in other ways, you may find your orgasms to be much more intense when they’re coming from a vibrator.
Side by side. This is another great shallow penetration position that doesn’t allow for much thrusting. It’s also very close and intimate. It’s a good position to use to take a little break and reconnect with each other.
Sitting in a chair. This is another position that can be a good alternative to doggy-style. You still get the rear entry, but since you’re in charge of the pace and depth, he can’t get carried away.
Spooning. This position creates shallow penetration, so he won’t get overstimulated. It also forces you to move slowly and subtly, since he’s likely to fall out if he gets too enthusiastic.
There are also some great new sex toys that can make the distance not seem like such a big factor. They're Bluetooth-enabled, which means you can use them even when you're separated.
Send each other naughty texts. Send voice recordings of you reading erotica out loud. Skype each other while you masturbate, or play a round of online strip poker.