“If your first time involves penetration, a little pain or pressure might be expected. That said, it should still be overall pleasurable — not painful. So if it hurts a lot, stop. This could be a signal that you need more foreplay or lubrication.”— Casey Gueren, buzzfeed.comTagged: Virgins, Vagina, bleeding, Blood
“Sex should be fun for both of you.”— Hannah Orenstein, cosmopolitan.comTagged: Virgins, Sex, Fun, Equality
“Be sure to pee afterwards! Bacteria can get pushed into your urethra during any sort of sexual contact. You do not want to celebrate losing your virginity with a nasty UTI.”— Vanessa Marin, lifehacker.comTagged: Virgins, Pee, bathroom, Bacteria, UTI
“Stop being nervous and simply enjoy the moment. Forget everything you’ve ever seen in the movies and porn because that’s not real.”— Nirmalya Dutta, thehealthsite.comTagged: Virgins, enjoy the moment, Porn, relax
“Don't be afraid to swallow. It can actually be a lot easier. And it's a HELL of a lot less messy.”— Lindsay Tigar, yourtango.comTagged: Virgins, blowjobs, swallow, ejaculation
“Queefing, aka noisy fart from the vagina, is perfectly normal. You may hear a loud, uncontrollable fart-like sound from your vagina while you're having sex. But it's not exactly a fart. Penetrative sex causes air to escape from the vagina and, expectedly so, it makes a noise. Nothing to be embarrass…”— Sukhmani Waraich, vagabomb.comTagged: Virgins, queefs, embarrassing, noises
“You are going to feel like the newb-iest of newbs. And guess what? You should just embrace it, because no one would expect you to nail a brand new dance routine or stand up your first time surfing. The truth is, even if it's not your partner's first time, it's their first time with YOU.”— Kim Tranell, seventeen.comTagged: virgin, first time, newbie, inexperienced
“If you’re not sure if you had an orgasm, you haven’t.”— Lindsay Tigar, yourtango.comTagged: Virgins, orgasms, Unsure, Confused
“Don’t sleep with someone unless you really, honest-to-God want to. You should never feel pressured to have sex because you think you’re expected to, regardless of how much you’ve been flirting or how long you’ve been dating.”— Lara Rutherford-Morrison, bustle.comTagged: Virgins, peer pressure, Choices, Decisions
“If you want to tell your partner you’re a virgin, it’s best to clear the air in the beginning. Who knows… maybe he’s a virgin as well! And if he has a problem with you being a virgin, then he’s not worth losing it to.”— Katie Szymanski, hercampus.comTagged: Virgins, Honesty, Truth
“Do not freak out (I repeat, do not FREAK out!) if he can't get it up or if he goes soft inside of you. This has nothing to do with you or the way you look. It does not mean you are terrible in bed or are not sexually pleasing.”— Addriey Jones, elitedaily.comTagged: Virgins, erection, hard-on, erectile dysfunction
“Don't forget to enjoy foreplay. All the stuff that leads up to intercourse — kissing, touching, oral sex — is part of the sexual experience; it's not just about penetration.”— Ian Kerner, cosmopolitan.comTagged: Virgins, foreplay, Kissing, Oral Sex, penetration
“Because your first time might be awkward, you should do what you can to make yourself feel comfortable. If that means having the lights off, keeping your shirt on or staying in one position the only time, so be it. Don't do things you don't want to do because that will only make you more uncomfortab…”— Jessica Booth, gurl.comTagged: Virgins, comfortable, lights, clothing
“Leave an air bubble at the top of the condom: This stops his liquid gold from breaking the condom once he comes.”— Addriey Jones, elitedaily.comTagged: Virgins, condoms, Protection, safe sex
“Are you emotionally and mentally ready to have sex? For most women, sex and emotions cannot be separated – it’s how we’re wired. We release a bonding chemical called oxytocin during sex that can leave us catching feelings if we’re not too careful. If you’re not sure if he is worthy of the honor of d…”— Brooke Dean, madamenoire.comTagged: Virgins, emotions, Feelings, Sex
“Most commonly, pain or bleeding isn't about the hymen at all. Instead, it is more commonly about about feeling nervous, rushed, unsafe or scared, not aroused enough or having a partner be too hasty. Not communicating that something hurts, and keeping on in silence is another common culprit with pain…”— Heather Corinna, scarleteen.comTagged: Virgins, Pain, hymen, Communication
“How does an orgasm feel? It’s never easy to explain your first orgasm. It’s a sensation that comes in waves of pleasure, like a pleasant muscle spasm.”— Cheryl James, lovepanky.comTagged: Virgins, orgasm, Pleasure, muscles
“Is your partner single, in a monogamous relationship, an open relationship, married, or something in between? Find out. It’s totally up to you how you want to proceed, but you should at least have all of the info up front.”— Lara Rutherford-Morrison, bustle.comTagged: Virgins, relationship status, Single, married
“You can read up sex tips, but everyone's first time is different with different circumstances. I know it sounds scary to go into it unprepared, but once you're doing it, you'll somehow just know what to do and where to go. And you'll figure out more through time.”— Jessica Booth, gurl.comTagged: Virgins, sex tips, Natural, unprepared
“Losing your v card might involve penetration, or it might involve anal sex, oral sex, manual stimulation, dildos, whatever. There’s no rule that your first time has to meet a specific set of criteria.”— Casey Gueren, buzzfeed.comTagged: Virgins, Oral Sex, dildos, penetration
“The worst thing you could do while having sex for the first time is not speak your mind. Even if your partner is more experienced than you, if there is something that you do not like, let them know. While if there is something you are open to experimenting with, let them know that too. In short, don…”— Nooriyah Merchant, thebrunettediaries.comTagged: Virgins, Communication, Honesty, Speak Up
“Sex is best when you really feel comfortable.”— Hannah Orenstein, cosmopolitan.comTagged: Virgins, comfortable, Relaxed, Sex
“Empty out your bladder before starting. Stopping to pee is one of the biggest mood-killers in the world. So hydrate yourself, pee it all out and then get it on.”— Sukhmani Waraich, vagabomb.comTagged: Virgins, Bladder, bathroom, Pee
“Honestly? Your first time might feel really anti-climatic. I know mine did. Once it was over, I was like, Wait, that's it? That's what everyone obsesses over?”— Jessica Booth, gurl.comTagged: Virgins, anti-climatic, Sex
“Girls should become comfortable with their own bodies before having sex.”— Katie Szymanski, hercampus.comTagged: Virgins, comfortable, Self-Love, Self-Confidence, body confidence
“Many women find it hard to ejaculate through vaginal intercourse and the only thing that works for them is clitoral stimulation.”— Nirmalya Dutta, thehealthsite.comTagged: Virgins, orgasm, clitoris, vaginal intercourse
“Make sure you're amply aroused before intercourse. Not only do you want to be genuinely turned on, you want to be sufficiently lubricated. If you're too dry, he'll have trouble entering you, you'll feel discomfort, and the friction can cause the condom to rip. So, keep water–based lube on hand just…”— Ian Kerner, cosmopolitan.comTagged: Virgins, turned on, lube, aroused
“Let me be real with you: your first time is probably going to be short (if there’s a penis involved), a little awkward, and not particularly fantastic. It will feel like there are an awful lot of limbs involved and no good place to put any of them.”— Vanessa Marin, lifehacker.comTagged: Virgins, short, penis, confusing
“When you're done with intercourse, take off the condom -- away from the vulva -- slowly, knot it, and throw it away. When you're pulling the penis out of the vagina, you'll want to hold onto the base of the condom so it doesn't slip off before you're ready for it to come off.”— Heather Corinna, scarleteen.comTagged: Virgins, condoms, Protection
“It’s uncommon for girls to experience an orgasm during sex for the first time because they aren’t familiar with interacting with a partner.”— Katie Szymanski, hercampus.comTagged: Virgins, orgasm, Sex, Partner